I didn't just break his heart, I think I broke him.
What do I do? He's drinking everyday, showing up to school after smoking weed. His eyes, they're not just red and tired, they are dead. Empty. He just stares into space, zones off. He doesnt talk TO people, he speaks AT people, he's not communicating, pushing people away, hiding away, I haven't seen him smile for almost a week. His friends say he's not him, I'm not the only one who is losing him, his friends are losing him too. What do I do? I feel like it's my fault. ALL MY FAULT. I love him, I still care but I'm drowning in this sea of depression and he is only pulling me down, I want someone to pull me up, he's not what I need right now which is why I broke up with him. My heart is breaking yes, but his just falling apart.
12 Answers to "I didn't just break his heart, I think I broke him."
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He's grieving. Leave him alone or you'll get caught up in it. The one thing he wants right now is your attention. The alcohol and marijuana are slowing things down badly enough. Getting mixed up with him right now will halt the grieving process altogether. And when it becomes clear his misery isn't going to win you back he will wind up starting the process all over. It must feel awful to see someone fall apart like that because of your decision. But his friends need to help him. If you get involved he'll wind up getting even more hurt.
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my friend - this is not your fault. Yes, both of you are hurt over breaking up - it's natural and normal. I know you and you care so much. Your instinct is to try to alleviate his pain. That will only make it worse and prolong it. The best thing you can do is give him space and try to avoid him. It's gonna suck. But, you broke up with him for a reason and you have to remind yourself of that. You have to do what's best for you sometimes. That you care is a tribute to your beautiful heart. You are not a bad person. You need to let his friends help him and be there for him. They will get through to him and he will smile again. Hang in there girl.
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This could have the makings of a long torture.
If he was depressed before he met you, then he might have been looking at you just the way you are thinking about finding someone who pulls you up, not down. P h e wLike (1)
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Dunks worry tomuch people get stronger n wiser n tbh if it's not wat you need then find wat you do don't let guilt hold ya bk
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I'll try not too. I just have a really bad conscience.. plus it's hard too not let it hold you back when you care so much.
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Yeah but why put ya self in that position you will only make it harder later on flower
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in his addiction he does not see you and he wont unless he enters a program for living by himself only he can do that no one can do it for him . as for yourself you need to step back to protect your self i know it hurts but you got to look after yourself .tis is not your fault you have done nothing wrong he will drag everyone close to him down to his level its the way of addicts they dont no any different for your own sanity pull back dont mean you love him any less but you cant live with him in your life sorry if tis is to blunt
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He's not like crazy drug-addict or anything, this is just the way he's coping with the breakup. I know this is the first time I dosomething this selfish, put myself first and it's killing me.
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:( sounds sad. I feel broken a little myself.
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You can't be certain he's having all his problems simply because you broke up with him, although I suspect that has to be a major blow to his self esteem and isn't helping along with whatever else is bothering him. You can't stay with him if you don't love him anymore. You can't feel guilty for breaking up with him either. If you're no longer friends with him, then his own friends will have to be there for him to help pull him through this. I would suggest that someone intervene on his behalf and watch him carefully to make sure he doesn't do anything drastic.
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He has issues as well, past problems though, left him scarred. But I'm dealing with it and instead ofhelping through, he's pulling me down and not being someone to reply on. I know I told my most of our friends to keep an eye on him and update me
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Run
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If only I can.
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leave him... it not your time i think...
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It isn't my time :/ Its only getting worse though.
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He will be fine..his heart is just hardening...He will come around...he will be a different man...but he will come around...
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I hope so.
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You might not like the new man...just saying...I know what he is going through cause the same thing happened to me...
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Talk to him
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But what if he is doing this for attention? What he actually wants from me is too go back running into his arms and let him know I care?
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Talking will help him understand
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by WizGeezer Mar 12th, 2013 at 1:01PM
Don't worry about him. It's not your problem or responsibility. You were wise to kick him to the curb.
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