The issue isn't your current state - it's what you're trying to do about it.<br />
If you're bumming off your friend and fine witht that, I'd say you're a loser. <br />
If your busting tail to find a job or get back in school or otherwise better yourself and your situation, then best of luck!
Hey, all that matters is that she believes in herself, regardless of what you or anyone else believe about her.
No, what matters is that she understands that it was set up as a safety net - not a hammock.
If I'm not mistaken, her question says she's in a ROUGH spot. Not a comfortable one. So I'm sure she understands.
@Tummie. but it matters what YOU think? And why is that? I just love people, like you (defenders of nonsense), who try to give good advice but you have yet to master judging between what's right and wrong.
GOOD ADVICE @TwylaMarie. :D
@Tummie, well if she isn't comfortable and not taking advantage of her situation, then she won't be offended by what TwylaMarie said, will she? If not, then what was your issue with the answer given?
When my husband died I was some what in that shape,now that I feel better having my own place and paying for everything on my own I feel so good that I have come this far things are looking so good.There will come a time when you will want to do the same,you may be going through something now,it will happen and you will become strong and not much will get you down cause you are on higher grown and the floods can't get to you again.
You are not a loser if this is all a temporary situation. Everyone needs some help getting started and you are lucky to have a friend willing to help. However, as someone who has been the friend lending the helping hand, don't take advantage! You should be doing your best to get on your own 2 feet and not treat your friends kindness as an invitation to crash there indefinitely. You are adding to their expenses and impeding on their privacy so be a good houseguest while you are there...get yourself together and maybe be able to help someone else on down the road. Good luck to you.
A friend stayed on my couch for a few months once. I didn't think he was a loser. Sometimes, it's just what you have to do. As long as you pitch in with housework or cook dinner sometimes or give your friend some money whenever you can or something of the like, then you're doing your part.
Sounds like you are homeless to me, have you considered contacting Manpower, the job may be for only a day and even nasty, but it is being productive. And being productive you will met more people and increase your opportunity for a better psoition. Schooling after high school is not for everyone. Some of the most wealthy people in the United States never when to school after high school. Learning how to sell often moves people into a high income. <br />
You only have a set number of days to live, each day you waste is a day you can never regain, life is to short to waste very many of them.
Wow ok you need to make some changes in your life,you are a mom your kid needs you,you need to do something for yourself to get a career going.Go to school or go to a technical school to learn a trade.I am not one to call people losers because most people find themselves in tough spots at one time or another.hang in there but dont hang out on the couch.
So why are you on EP instead of out there looking for a job?
I don't think you are a looser. You've got friends who let u sleep in their block. Life do suck sometimes and what you're going thru sounds really tough. Do something about your life if you can. If u can't find a job or u can't go to college for some reason why not volunteer. Sometimes it serves you well in the end.
no ...but maybe you should ask for help go to social services ..if your a young parent they could help you find a job and housing and food ..it doesn't hurt to ask
Yes I can tell you are an awesome chick in a rough spot, it oozes out of you
Well.The we Can pic.. says it all. YOU CAN. Keep your chin up girl. Something is bound to brake away soon....
I'm in the same situation! except I hear all the time how much of a loser I am :-(
---Depends on what you are doing about it...<br />
Now if you are trying to do stuff....<br />
Then no your not, your in a rough spot...<br />
But if your taken advantage of your friends...and bumming rides, food...home...<br />
Then your a loser.<br />
Cuz your not WINNING.<br />
---Question is...why will her grandmother let her stay there but not you???<br />
Theres more to this than you are saying.
do you contribute to rent and food? If not then you are a burden not a loser, just a burden.
I feel you have a great attitude.
great attitude. Good luck. You're halfway there already
When I was starting my career I went through what you are going through. It doesn’t make you a loser, it just makes you stronger! You are already strong for going through this even though sometimes you don’t feel strong, YOU ARE! Once this chapter in your life is over you will realize that you are stronger because of this experience! I have faith that you are on the right track and are thinking the right way! You are NOT a loser by far! In fact, you are a success story in the making and you ARE already a WINNER!
depends on how long have you been in that situation. If you have been leeching off your friend for awhile say like 6 months or more then Yes. But if its only a couple weeks or so then I'd say your down on luck.
Your mother knows better than any of us here on EP do. The fact that your mother let your daughter live with her but doesn't want you living with her speaks volumes. ba<x>sed on your mother's actions, its likely that you ARE a loser. Having said that, Twyla's answer was good. Are you out TRYING to get a job (even a low-paying one) or are you just sitting around your friend's house wasting time on the computer? If you have a daughter who you can't afford to take care of right now and you aren't busting your butt trying to get into a better situation, then you're a LOSER with a capital L!
I think your awesome too!!!!