I helped this woman ho had a son who lied, cheated, stole. He hacked her laptop and stole her credit-card information and bought a bunch of stuff. When I set her computer up with really good security protection, he came to me with her laptop and told me I used the wrong security and I need to replace it with some program I've never heard of before. I told him no. He started to throw a fit in my store and I had him thrown out. He went home and threw a 32" CRT Television all the way through the wall. About 3 in the morning, he was rudely awoken by a big black drill sergeant who immediately threw him on a bus and 3 days later, he was in Arizona. That's the last I heard about him.
Every kid is different
"He's just of that age" and "bad parenting, he's a brat, send im off to bootcamp" don't mean anything
you have to find out why he is acting the way he is first and foremost
you could be just acting out due to peer pressure, or 30 something much more serious
they won't hurt to take it to see a professional
specialize in the face
That's getting pretty old. He'll need a lot of TLC, meaning your presence. Taking things away worked for me, but my kids really wanted their priveledges. Iphones, xboxes, etc. are a good start. But let him earn them back quickly. Long term punishments don't work.
Pretty typical I'd say. On a more serious note, your profile says you are very young to have a fourteen year old. Do you have a partner, and is he supportive of your efforts? I assume "he" because teenage boys do need a father figure they can respect as well as a caring mum.
Take care and good luck. I've been there myself, both as a teenager and father to two.
Good on you. Your son doesn't yet know how lucky he is.
If this is typical, what in the world would atypical be???
You can look at the boys town webpage. They information and resources. Without more information as to the reasons...that's my best advice. Boystown also has a hotline.
Either he breaks or you will.
So Military school seems to be the way unless you can enforce discipline and responsibility, which doesnt seem likely in his present environment.
Sorry. But since you are part of the problem it seems unlikely you will be the solution. He needs help to change.
Well, i would suggest handcuffs and a small dirty broom closet but i guess its not within the law
My mom sent my brother to boot camp :P
No I am joking. But it is a good idea. He was just on riddilin.
You should have started dealing with him as a toddler. There are agencies who will assist you with that. With his attitude, he will likely be in jail, before long, that might be the best thing for both of you. It could be the wake up call he needs. I realy am sorry you are having to go through with that.
well when i was 14 i dont no how my mum and dad put up with me he sounds a bit like i was and thats not your fault i had a good upbring mum and dad still i went off the rails you have to look at hes friend i hung around with older people so grew up fast i did all sorts and the more mum and dad went on the more i did it then u could have a slap that did not work it will be hard to chance your son now the best thing u can do is tell him he will end up looked up and that you care but he can only help hes self tell him you cant help if he dont talk there maybe something hes hinden ask him if hed like to see a doctor about hes anger and tell him you drop him of to have privey check his bedroom maybe hes on drugs there so much about now when he does steel wot does he use the money? wish u look o and rememder hes a teen so u need to help him but teen make mistakes
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Accept where you both are, accept that you both are working through things and go from there. Be honest. Share your feelings. Be vulnerable. Hes hurting too, and probably not expressing it well. He's expressing it through his actions because he doesn't know any other way how. And my guess is that you may not handle it without getting upset, which usually doesn't help. Be yourself, share how you feel. Cry even... its ok. Trust me... he has a good cry inside him too. But you can only be in control of you. Not others. I think honesty and letting your feelings out to him honestly without blaming, and even maybe taking responsibility for thing that you could do better, would absolutely be the best thing for your troubled young man. good luck
Drop him off in Harlem for a few nights. Come back for him once he's chilled out.
I'm sorry to tell you, this sounds like a normal teenager.
Mmm. take him to a psychologist then, he might be a pathological liar.
I can't believe, you consider this normal.
He fits right in; so no worries. Did you have him when you were 16?
That's so hard. Is his Dad around?
Does he have no authority over your son?
Private school or send him to the JDC
Sounds pretty normal for a 14 year old.