Tough as it is, it looks like you'd be better off without him: people say they can change (and often try for a while) but relationships have to work ba<x>sed on the people you are *now*, not some future improved version.<br />
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It's just about possible that dumping him will give him the slap in the face he needs to wise up, but I suspect not. You can do better; just take it easy and don't jump into anything. :)

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Hope for the future, just don't bank on it. I agree that a life lived without taking chances is pretty limiting, but at some point, you have to cut your losses...

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IF IT HAS STARTED THIS EARLY I SUGGEST DITCHING ....

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dump him because it won't get any better.

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you can't make someone change. you have to accept who they are if you want them. if he wants to stick around he will change for you.

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You have the answer already, if you read your own words.<br />
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Your friends don’t have the complete answer; I don’t suggest they are totally wrong, but they are taking care of you. I also don’t suggest they have it wrong either, but it’s *you* who has to come to the final decision and not them, and it’s you who will have the personal knowledge of what it is you do that is right for you.<br />
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It sounds like there is a lot of upset in the wake of where you are up to at this stage. He says he will put right what is wrong, but he is hurting you. It seems a lot more than you just being upset, it seems deeper that than. The more he causes you to hurt, the harder it is for you and the less likely you are to have confidence in him putting things right. You already have the solution.<br />
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You don’t want to stay with him if he makes you miserable; up to now you have given him chances to put things right and he hasn’t done. Your option, should you go back, is to give him another try, but what hope do you *really* hold out for that? You say it isn’t a good answer; that’s your decision. You going back to him isn’t going to put right what is already outstanding that already hurts you and not being confident that he will be any different if you go back to him<br />
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The very *least* you deserve in the relationship is that he treats you with respect and that he honours your feelings and your wishes. You don’t seem confident, at all, that he can do this. Don’t go back to him if you are not confident that he will treat you with respect. No one deserves to be miserable and you have done nothing to be in the place you are. Call it off and put it down to experience and, I’m sure, you won’t let this happened again in any future relationships you will go on to have. Abuse comes in many different flavours; the fact he hurts you, tells you he is going to put things right and *then* go on to hurt you over again is abusive. Learn now that a guy who treats you this way isn’t worth your love.<br />
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You r confused because you don't have any other choice. In my world we don't test any person again n again. Religiously we give three chances max, if it doesn't work, time to say Good Bye.

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Unless you want to live this way for ever then leave him. You have the right to choose the quality of life you want to live. Choose it. There is someone else who will cherish you but you may not find him if you don't wait. Trust me. I rushed things because I thought I was love now 20 later I am miserable.

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Leave him

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