he's playin emotional games with you........& your buyin into it........he's one of those guys that need to "find themselves"........doesn't look good.......sorry
Well, I mean, after 16 months together when WILL he love you? He's using past relationships as a crutch. I don't think this guy is stable enough to stay with. He will never love you because he sounds like he constantly has walls up and won't let anyone in. You deserve someone who will love you for you, you shouldn't have to try hard at that. Ditch the idiot and his mind games.
If he's been messed around in the past and hurt, he is clearly going to be reluctant to voice his feelings to you - even though I suspect he does have a real sense of loving you. Maybe there are rejection or abandonment issues going on here with him, besides the trust issues?<br />
No relationship comes with a cast iron guarantee for life. Part of trusting ourselves to admit love to others means also opening ourselves to the possibility to being hurt too. It doesn't seem like he's up to facing that possibility yet.
Well, I think that it was a great first step forward for him in terms of being able to open up to you about how he feels. So yes the bottom line is that therapy has the potential to help a great deal in areas of abandonment and rejection issues, however as with all therapy, the success rate rests largely upon the individuals resolve to want to change. I think if you love him - and it certainly seems like you do otherwise you wouldn't still be there - you both owe the relationship one last chance. I wish you well, glad you got back to me to let me know how it's going. Take care.
I think some of these comments are over the top. I don't think he is playing a game. Love is a game of vunerable, sometimes you stay together sometimes you be just friends and in others you never talk again. But i don't see him being heartless(mind play ) if he ask you why you worried or invites you to move with him. (Not bad signs ) On the other hand I believe you are forcing your emotions on him by saying you wont say you love him unless he says it first. Which is ridiculous,seems to me you would be hiding the truth until he told you what you want to hear. I think you should rethink what you want out of this relationship, taken some men lie all the time about loving or being in love.
move on baby.. you've been together for so long and he hasnt figured out if he loves you? what the H**l? seriously, i dnt think he is worth it at all.. maybe he picks you up and all those small things he does for you counts.. maybe he cares.. but is not sure about "love". well, thats just a comment.. you know the answers.. its in the way he feels about you.. its when you;re not on EP. and in the way he looks at you.
He is just stringing you along hun. I'm sorry. It really sounds like he is waiting for some one else... If he doesn't know if he loves you yet then he won't EVER know... At least not with out hurting you first ##my expirience..
if he really loves you then he will come back.....and if he wont then he was never in love wid you
Sounds like he's playing mind games with you. He's keeping his options open for whatever reason... be very careful with deceivers like this.
For trying to use reversed psychology putting the all the onus on you but at the same time wanting you to commit to 'his' wants and needs and making 'you' feel guilty about not going along with 'his' plans. Whilst he has the security of walking away when he wants to saying I told her exactly what the situation was.... he's a good player... be very careful.
i dont think u ruined anything, at least not permanently. "love" is a word that women tend to throw around lightly, ive heard it after 2 weeks before. he got snappy cause he feels like ur pushing him to say "words" and thats all they are.
oh, im not a relationship expert. hell i bought my wife her own house, just so she wouldnt sit here and ***** all the time.
The fault doesn't lie with you, it lies with him. He is taking advantage of you and HE is guilting YOU. I think you need to think twice about continuing a relationship with such a man.