the more often you use it, the less value it has. the more he hears it, the less he appreciates it. he will just accept it as another greeting. don't suffocate him with those words. Make those words mean something when it matters most.

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see what happens when you want to say it, and don't....stay with whatever feeling comes up...that's what's going on...it could be unmet childhood need that has got triggered and your afraid, it could be you want to control him because you are afraid, it may be because you have so much repressed love that wants to come out...whatever it is you need to feel it in the body at the time you are on the verge of saying it and then stay with it without doing anything, breath and be with it, it's not you it's just a feeling that is very strong and you need to find out what's behind it, then tell us here!<br />
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Okay, so you have information now on what it's about. it's not a childhood thing it's more about not seeing him as much as you would like and then you say <br />
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and maybe alot of where this is coming from is how i want to feel - by him<br />
Well maybe i like to tell him that i feel all that for him, because i miss feeling it myself.<br />
he's so busy and he does try his best. But maybe sometimes it's not enough?<br />
i need to be told it sometimes too<br />
He does love me, i know he does. It's just he doesn't show it as much as i'd like, so i show it to him to make up for what i miss i guess<br />
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Bingo, you have got it. So just stay with your thoughts and feelings, this is about YOU and the answers are right there where they have always been, inside yourself. Good luck

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ive just sat and thought about what you said. I've sort of got an idea in my head of what it could be.. but it has nothing to do with my childhood. I had a good, happy upbringing..I think it's my relationship that makes me feel this way. The fact that i don't see my boyfriend as much as I'd like, I don't speak to him as much as I'd like either, and maybe alot of where this is coming from is how i want to feel - by him. If someone tells you they love you alot, then you're bound to feel loved, wanted, needed.. am i right? Well maybe i like to tell him that i feel all that for him, because i miss feeling it myself. It's not his fault, he's so busy and he does try his best. But maybe sometimes it's not enough? maybe im trying to hint to him that what im saying to him, i need to be told it sometimes too. He does love me, i know he does. It's just he doesn't show it as much as i'd like, so i show it to him to make up for what i miss i guess.<br /><br />update*: thanks :)

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