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I fell out love but am not sure I won't to go...?

I was going out with a boy for a year. After easter, I fell out of love with him - it was one weekend - he acted in an insecure way, maybe stop caring about himself and his image changed in my eyes totally!!
The relationship was great tho- i was madly in love until that happened! We were trying to fix things for 3 months but my feelings didn't change.
We decided not to communicate for 6 months but I'm really scared it's not gonna help.
The thing is his family loves me so much I think they're amazing, me and my boyfriend shared similar values, and I can't get rid of the feeling i may give up the best thing I've ever had. I also cant concentrate on anything else but evaluating whether anything changed in me.
Because it took 3 months of being upset all i can recall now are unpleasant situations from that time. But sometimes I still remember how i felt when we only started going out. I can;t let it go!
Do you guys think the time may change things between us? How can I stop worrying?

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silvrsurfr	Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 10:40AM This is the weirdest thing I find in any relationship. Love can turn on a dime....I've been totally in love, only to experience the same thing you described....I've fallen out of love but women seem to be able to do it with a much more ruthless efficiency.... Yes, it is possible for feelings to change back and forth...and back again....Liz Taylor married and divorced Richard Burton 3 times! The problem is that whenever this happens trust goes away...next time he might be the one that feels differently....Take a step back, a breath and follow your heart not your head... Rated: +1Vote for this!
emperorofcali	Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 10:48AM Most telling sign: you're more worried about what you're giving up than what you're getting. This is the difference between being in and out of love. You're not alone, and just be happy it lasted as long as it did, that you were able to experience love so quickly and that you now have the option of not clinging on any further. Some people cling to the feelings they used to have for someone for years and it's like a shadow they are constantly living under. It's wise to give a relationship time to see where it goes after it takes the sharp turn that yours did. But now you're comparing, which means that you're living more in the past than in the present. That trend is likely to just get worse. Love doesn't have to be anything less than something you can't wait to wake up to, not something that you have to worry about and attempt to "get back". There is no worry, no "his family", no comparing. That is no longer the love you had or need. Rated: +1Vote for this!
virtuous80	Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 11:21AM love is eternal, if you don't love him now, you never loved him then. as 4everhummbled said, it was just infatuaution. Rated: +1Vote for this!
kryptonian	Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 12:29PM That kind of love is a chemical reaction. If you want to keep him in your life forever, then you soldier through and make love a decision. If you don't want to keep him, then move on. The only next step is asking yourself if this is the person you want with you for the rest of your life. If not, don't wait. Rated: +1Vote for this!
intelflirt	Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 1:20PM If you truly loved him in the first place, I don't think you would have fallen out of love because he showed signs of insecurity over one weekend. You would have wanted to do anything to help him get strong again, not proved him right for feeling insecure! I went through the same hell with my ex fiance - he loved me to bits, helped me in every way imaginable, gave me everything I could possibly have wanted, his family was amazing and he would have made a brilliant father ... but the chemistry just wasn't there when I was honest with myself. We tried to give each other space, but it just didn't work. Trying to force love to come back doesn't work. It sounds like he's not the one for you. Let him move on. Better know than string him along until you fall in love with someone else. It will be tough for you, so I wish you luck. Please be reassured - eventually, the pain and guilt and empty feeling does subside and you will find yourself feeling happy and in love. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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