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I get my feelings hurt by people all the time. How do I cope with being unattractive?

I can't cope with being ugly. People call me ugly a lot of the time. I get glanced at and people get grossed out by me. I have trouble making friends and girlfriends. What do I do? Watch the video in the link below until atleast the 5 minute point and get back to me. Thanks. This is serious stuff! My life is hell due to my image.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2R17LviIpOc

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  1. nukemycorndog - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by nukemycorndog Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:12PM

    Dude, I watched the video and was waiting to see the Elephant Man or the Hunchback of Notre Dame. You look like anyone on the street to me.
    With you carrying on and on and on and on about how ugly you are, I have to wonder... compared to who? I see no defect... nothing wrong.
    I'm staring to think this is just a big joke. If it isn't a joke, then please get some help.

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  2. ariel89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by ariel89 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:37PM

    I am also starting to think that this is just one big joke...

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  3. nukemycorndog - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by nukemycorndog Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:42PM

    It is a big *** joke. And to take such a gtime making and editing that dumb *** video...... give me a break. If his ugly hideous self channeled all that effort into something constructive, the world might, just might be a better place.

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  4. Wonneguut - 61-65 years old

    Posted by Wonneguut Nov 30th, 2012 at 7:00PM

    You are ugly man. Accept it. This is the pain you have to bear, so others can feel better about themselves.

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  5. MissComet - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by MissComet Nov 11th, 2012 at 1:13AM

    Most people are cuter when they are kids, so of course you were cuter as a kid! Gosh, even Shirley Temple wasn't as cute when she was an adult and that didn't bother her! She was a well-adjusted person who became ambassador to (former) Czechoslovakia. I can understand how it is to feel unattractive, but you just look like an average guy on the street. If you compare yourself to movie stars - or the way you looked as a kid, you're always going to feel ugly. Get away from people who tell you you're ugly all the time. I have to wonder what kind of people you hang around if they make such a big deal out of an average guy's looks?

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  6. travelingthinker - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by travelingthinker Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:49PM

    The way I see it when it comes to comparisons if you're determined enough you'll always find better examples. But the reverse of that is just as true, if you're equally determined you'll always find worse examples.

    When it comes to personal image not even so called Supermodels are immune from this and they do this for a living, how else is cosmetic surgery a billion dollar industry? So my question to you is what point of view would you RATHER have?

    Seems to me what you really need to do is spend less time thinking about how others perceive you and more time personally enriching yourself. Get your mind off appearance and spend some time doing things like reading books. Goodreads is a great resource for that. Connect with people who have the same interests as you in your area through a website like Meetup. Find a place to volunteer through a site like VolunteerMatch. Just as important as any of that if you aren't already do some more exercise you can't underestimate how good that is for the body.

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  7. saxgurl212 - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by saxgurl212 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:34PM

    God doesn't make mistakes. (Sorry for goin all religious on ya) But there is nothing wrong with you, Why should looks even matter? All those people who were making fun of you are insensitive, shallow dickheads who have nothing better to do than make fun of other people to make them selves feel superior. Don't take anything they said to heart. Justignore those people and be yourself!
    Hope this could help
    ~Emily, Jenette, Jesse, Shayla, Chloe, Angela, and Cecilia ( I'm looked at differently because I'll change personalities at weird times, but I ignore it.)

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  8. crazychica369 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by crazychica369 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:18PM

    Looks are not everything honestly who cares I wish I was unattractive.

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  9. Nic00l - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by Nic00l Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:16PM

    so i actually didnt watch the video but it doesnt matter cus everybody is attractive to the right person just keep looking, besides looks arent the only thing thats important

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  10. jack1213 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by jack1213 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:13PM

    Stop worrying about your looks and put yourself across with confidence. Some of the ugliest people in the world have beauytiful partners. Self confidence and, directness and a little sense oof humor go farther than looks in most cases. And if she can't see that, she isn't worth it.

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  11. mbuch - 46-50 years old

    Posted by mbuch Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:08PM

    How about doing volunteer work with people who are more damaged than you? You could volunteer at a veterans hospital, where you will meet people who have had parts of their faces blown off. You could volunteer at a children's burn ward. To see kids who are severely damaged might give you a different perspective.

    When I was your age I felt pretty funky looking. Plus I was awkward and geeky. I grew out of all of it by the time I was 27. And yes, I did spend time working with a child in a burn ward. It gave me a whole new perspective on beauty. Just like having a neighbor whose daughter was severely developmentally disabled taught me a lot about love, acceptance, wisdom, and what intelligence really is.
    Being around people who seemingly have less than you but who struggle to make the best of what they have is a great cure for ones own physical and/or mental ugliness. So is reading, especially literature and history. Many great people became who they became in part because they weren't pretty, or healthy, or popular. Most of them ended up transcending physical beauty through the sheer force of personality. Famous examples include Cleopatra (who was so witty that men found her irresistible), Theodore Roosevelt ( a weedy, sickly boy who became known for being a president, an outdoorsman, an environmentalist and a soldier), Henry Kissinger (who at the height of his power looked like a troll, but made governments tremble and slept with most of the great beauties of his day), and so on.
    One more thing. I just looked at your video. Nothing is physically wrong with you. You do however project insecurity, depression and low self esteem, and these things are 'ugly' and unpleasant to others. Therapy, exercise, stretching your mind through reading quality books and listening to quality music, will all help in making you more attractive to yourself and others. But only you can put in the work. Asking the same question over and over again isn't going to help you. Quite frankly from what you where saying, I was expecting someone who looked like that kid in Mask.

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  12. lol123135125 - 26-30 years old

    Posted by lol123135125 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:00PM

    It's all about confidence. If you want to feel and look more attractive you can't bring yourself down like you are doing now. Asking people "if I'm ugly" or telling people that you are ugly is not helping you. You are just creating your own helplessness. Some things I would recommend: Grow your hair longer and get a decent hair cut, work out and get a better body, buy cloths that are comfortable and makes you feel confident. At the end of the day, its all about confidence. If you think you are ugly and show your insecurities, people will pick up on that. But if you think that you are one hot *** good looking dude, and put the time and effort in doing so, then you will be.

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  13. ariel89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by ariel89 Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:56PM

    I really don't know what to say to this. On one hand, I completely understand feeling like you're the ugliest human being in the world. I still can't look at myself in the mirror while wearing my glasses or else I freak out. (Fuzzy me is much better than clear me.) On the other hand, some things about your video are really bugging me. I mean, you compared your picture with that of a "retard"'s at one point in the video. What do you think you're gaining by doing that? You do realize that these "retards" you think so poorly of have feelings just like you, right? Just because you think you're ugly doesn't make it okay for you to make others feel ugly too. You're probably just not thinking rationally, but you really need to stop calling yourself words like "mongoloid" and "retard" because they're offensive to entire groups of people which you do not appear to be a part of.

    I'm sorry if all of that sounded harsh, but it needed to be said. Anyway, if you really do feel this way about yourself, then you should talk to a therapist. You sound like you might have something called Body Dysmorphic Disorder. You are not ugly, but I know that me saying that won't change your feelings about yourself. You should talk to a professional about this and do CBT (or whatever it is the professional suggests). Good luck.

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  14. jsanza29 - 22-25 years old - male

    Reply by jsanza29 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:05PM

    What is a mongoloid by the way?

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  15. ariel89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by ariel89 Nov 10th, 2012 at 10:11PM

    You've been calling yourself that and you don't even know what it means? http://lmgtfy.com/?q=mongoloid also, here's a very brief blurb from wikipedia: "Although some forensic anthropologists and other scientists continue to use the term in some contexts (for instance in criminal justice in order to serve the medicolegal community that still operates on archaic racial concepts)[3], ****outside of those contexts the term mongoloid is now considered derogatory by the scientific community due to its association with discredited typological models of racial classification.****"

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  16. aycha - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by aycha Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:37PM

    gym- education- spirituality! These three are so good especially if joined together! You cant be but soooo attractive after a while!

    Have a cup of tea everyday too with people you love even a family member!

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  17. O38OO2661677 - 36-40 years old

    Posted by O38OO2661677 Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:37PM

    What are you hoping to achieve by asking this question over and over? You remind me of the guy the other night, that got plenty of answers that were helpful, yet he kept asking.

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  18. jsanza29 - 22-25 years old - male

    Reply by jsanza29 Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:40PM

    It's hard, I can't accept how ugly I am.

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  19. O38OO2661677 - 36-40 years old

    Reply by O38OO2661677 Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:42PM

    You need to seek help.

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  20. dskdw25q9n - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by dskdw25q9n Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:35PM

    That video is fifteen minutes long. Ain't got the time. Seems like this is just a prank to induce people to watch your lengthy video.

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  21. jsanza29 - 22-25 years old - male

    Reply by jsanza29 Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:36PM

    Nah man, I'm ugly as sin. I'm crying for help.

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  22. dskdw25q9n - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by dskdw25q9n Nov 10th, 2012 at 9:37PM

    You look like a normal guy in the video. It is all in your head.

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