"The Greatest Gift" by Karla M. Bertram:
I always knew this time would come,
From the very instant our eyes first met.
How I loved you then! How I love you now!
I made a promise then, and I will keep that promise now...
You will not suffer from a pain that will not heal;
You will not know the loss of a life remembered, now gone.
It is for me alone to make this decision,
The price for the bright joy and pure laughter
You brought me during the time we shared.
I am the only one who can decide when it is time.
When my hope dies, and my fear rides high,
Just when I need you most, I must let you go.
It is for you alone to tell me when you are ready
For without your guidance, I will not know
When to lay my grief, my guilt, my anger
My sorrow and my selfish heart aside
And give you this last gift, this greatest gift.
Your eyes will speak to mine, and I will know.
The pain of this moment is excruciating.
Tears stream down my face in a river of sorrow.
And my heart drowns in a pool of grief.
For you have spoken and I have listened,
And unlike other decisions I have made
This one brings no relief...no comfort...no peace.
For if there´s one thing you´ve taught me,
If there´s only one thing I´ve learned...
Unconditional love has a condition after all,
I must be willing to let you go, when you speak to me
I must be willing to help you go, if you cannot go alone.
And I must accept my pain so you can be free of yours.
Go easily now, go quickly now,
Do not linger here, it is time for you to leave.
Go find your strength, go find your youth.
Go find the ones who've gone before you.
You are free to leave me now, free to let your spirit soar
Rest easy now, your pain will soon be gone.
I pray I will find comfort in my memories...
In the dark and lonely days ahead.
I cannot say I will not miss you, I cannot say I will not cry.
For only my tears can heal my broken heart.
But, I promise you this; as long as I live,
You will live, alive in my mind, forever in my heart.
So I give you this last gift, all I have left to give,
And this will be my greatest gift...sending you away.
It is the measure of my unconditional love...
For only the greatest love can say,
"Good-bye, go find the bridge, we'll meet again,
Loving you has been the greatest gift of all."
-"The Greatest Gift" by Karla M. Bertram (CC-BY-SA)
I had to have my 8 yr old German Shepherd put down today. He was such a good dog and sooo smart. My Wife said we were like peas and carrots. He followed my every footstep. He made the choice today and the above poem is so very true. I could see it in his eyes late last night that he was ready. He was diagnosed with Leukemia 7 1/2 months ago. The vet told us it would be about three months before he would pass away and My dog fought a good fight. I watched as he slowly declined but he had a good quality of life. He had less energy and some days he would sleep all day but he continued to eat every day and also would still play. He was even playing up until a couple of days ago. Last night I observed him to be restless and it seemed like he could not get comfortable. I sat with him late into the night and I told him that if he was ready he could go. Not to stay around because of me wanting him too. This morning he would not get up for me. He was not panting or hurting but he would not get up. I know he was very weak and had finally given up the fight. I called the vet and she came to the house to give him the injection. He did not struggle or get stressed. Just an injection and he was gone. I have been through this with four other Shepherds and each one has their own personality and each one is so loyal. It hurts now but I am at peace with the decision. I know he was ready. We want to keep them because we love them but that is also the reason we must let them go when it is time.
I had to put my best friend to sleep today and am totally heartbroken. As much as i wanted Nemo to stay with me, we have been together 12 years, i knew it was time. He had an enlarged heart, heart failure and ascites. This morning he looked so well and wagged his tail and i almost relented. But Nemo has depended on me all his life, however i realise now i depended on his more, and what i gave him does not compare to the love he gave me but i knew i could not put him though any more. I took him to the vets this morning and he was given sedation and after a few moments he could not longer stand and i lay down with him and held him until he was fast asleep then the vet gave him the full injection and he died in my arms. The pain seems to be unbearable at the moment but i took this responsibilty on the day i brought him home as a puppy that i would love and cherish him and protect him and not allow him to willingly suffer. While it is heartbreaking i also know that i done what was best for my beautiful loving friend. Remember when the time comes know that you are in my prayers. Good luck and God bless
If your dog needs to be put to sleep just remember that it is probably in so much pain that it is the right thing to do. And your dog will always be a good dog and if they could, it would thank you for not letting it suffer to death.
I've suffered this grief and I do sympathize with you. It broke my heart to hold my poor friend as he died. But I did regret waiting a few days because he seemed to be in pain.
Just realist that it's not about you but your little friend...If he/she is in pain or is very old it may be time..even if it isn't so much for you. it's never hard saying goodbye, i have had my share with pets that were more family then my own sometimes. you'll never forget him/her..just do what is best for them and time will heal all!
Beautiful poem, Krisis. Here's the one about the bridge that is referred to in your post:
By realizing that your companion should not die in the arms of a stranger. It will comfort him being in your arms as life dims away. I let down 2 of my companions and I feel so guilty, I will never do that again. Just do it. You will feel better knowing that you were there for your dog, the way your dog was always there for you. I know the pain. I am crying for you ( and me) right now. I know it feels like your heart is being ripped out, but be there anyway. I am so sorry for your loss. Goddess bless.
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this... I know how very painful it is.
I read your story and I left you a message there.
Hugs to you...
I don't think it's about courage for me with my shitsu mikki my fear of more happening to him and not wanting him to go through it without me by his side
To have him return to a hospital lay in a cage suffer alone with outy care put me into a state of pure fear
I needed him well and with terrible vet experiences I couldn't believe they would care for him as they had let him lay suffering they were the most uncaring hospital for pets I never imagined so called professionals where so mean about care and all about money and their neglect of mikki still makes me sick
It took fear on my part to put him to sleep fear of no where to turn if more went wrong
I spent thirty days healing him the vets spent thirty days taking him down I kept him at home and went everyday day twice or three times a day for meds and that one day I went numb and made the call
I don't know why I never made a conscience decision I just did the phone call with him in his play pen looking at me as he said up for the first time alone in thirty days
I took and put him to sleep I never waited to see what a vet chiropractic treatment could have done for him I regret not giving him more time I missed a few good signs I just know I didn't make a right decision at that time
My guilt still remains after a year
I don't know how to understand or accept what I have done
I pray we all find a way to cope and find peace in the decisions we all have made as the guilt and pain holds us in an unhealthy state
God Bless each of you who have made this decision or in those who will one day have to our pets are our greatest love ...Sandee