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I have a high libido, my boyfriends is very low is it wrong that I took a lover?

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I'm assuming you are asking because you don't have an open relationship with your boyfriend. Based on that assumption I'm going to say that yes it is wrong.

Not to sound too blunt or harsh here, but basically you're being selfish. Because your boyfriend's libido doesn't match your own, you've decided to cheat on him to satisfy your own needs. If he had a matching libido you wouldn't have cheated. And if the roles were reversed (and you are being honest with yourself) I don't think you would approve of him taking a lover to get off with.

Perhaps you shouldn't have a boyfriend until you're able to see the relationship beyond yourself.

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Other 12 Answers to I have a high libido, my boyfriends is very low is it wrong that I took a lover?

Cosreal	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 2:46AM is it wrong that you cheated? is that what you are asking? if so, yes. You could have at least had the decency to break it off before hand. Rated: +7Vote for this!
Moghedien21	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 12:07AM Was it an open relationship thing? If your boyfriend is okay with it, then everything is fine. But cheating really hurts people. Rated: +3Vote for this!
lsyn	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 11:55PM That's between you and your boyfriend. However, if you didn't discuss it with him first, it will be VERY difficult to bring it up now, after you've already "taken a lover." He will very likely feel rejected and deceived. Communication is the oxygen of a good relationship. Don't hold your breath so long next time... Rated: +2Vote for this!
Frankenface	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 11:47PM Um, didn't you already take a lover before you took a second one? Rated: +1Vote for this!
hellocp	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 11:49PM I was in the EXACT same situation! i did take another lover but after i did also break up with my boyfriend because it is wrong! Sorry. Rated: +1Vote for this!
coloco	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 11:55PM Yep, for the short answer. Rated: +1Vote for this!
RachaelPie	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 12:45AM cheating is kinda bad :p u better slam his azz on the table n fuxp Rated: +1Vote for this!
TheRealWoman	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 2:24AM Yes, if you did it without his knowledge and/or permission...of course it is. This advice comes from a former "other lover", by the way. Rated: +1Vote for this!
zillaron	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 2:36AM You deserve to be cheated on and dumped by him. Maybe he loved you. Despicable to cheat on him, you should be ashamed of yourself! Rated: +1Vote for this!
brwneyedbeauty	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 2:48AM You must know it is or you wpuldn't have asked. But sorry hun, I am not going to tell you it isn't wrong just to make you feel better. You know it is, as much as any of us do. Rated: +1Vote for this!
hawk2002	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 10:15AM Funny how the big guilt trips are coming from guys here - yeah; like you would not be tempted, right?? If you are in a relationship which does not work, then end it. Life with more than one lover is complicated, but who is to say that it is wrong in some cases to spend time with and love more than one? IF both relationships are casual and you are still learning how to conduct your life. If you have kids and responsibilities with the guy with no libido - then you have a problem. You owe him far more. Rated: +1Vote for this!
4everChanging	Posted Sep 13th, 2009 at 11:46AM Wrong or right has to be determined by you .... I think you already know the answer to this question, however... Rated: +1Vote for this!

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