why did you Marry? you are living a lie.
*raising hand* I went through the same... I fell for my best friend of 30 years after being with my husband for 20+ years... but since my soulmate is 600 miles away, we decided that we would not wait for each other but deep inside we always will. However, I am still going through with the divorce. If I truly loved him, I would not fall for the second guy so this told me a lot.
If you don't love your hubby and are unhappy. Try getting something going with this other guy.if you don't try you will always be left wondering. Just tell hubby you want separate for a while then you can see this other guy and see if he's the better one for you.
You should not be with your spouse if you are in love with someone else, that's just not fair at all
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Remember tho the hurt you will put on your current partner..Could you live with that? But hey it dont sound like your getting all your needs met now or you wouldn't be in love with another ..You only live once right