I have been married for 20 years and I am in love with someone else who doesn't know it. I have known this person for al
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Posted by luvsall3232 Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:27PM
why did you Marry? you are living a lie.
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Posted by StarMommyO Oct 25th, 2012 at 1:59PM
*raising hand* I went through the same... I fell for my best friend of 30 years after being with my husband for 20+ years... but since my soulmate is 600 miles away, we decided that we would not wait for each other but deep inside we always will. However, I am still going through with the divorce. If I truly loved him, I would not fall for the second guy so this told me a lot.
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Posted by ch014h6677 Mar 21st, 2012 at 3:51PM
If you don't love your hubby and are unhappy. Try getting something going with this other guy.if you don't try you will always be left wondering. Just tell hubby you want separate for a while then you can see this other guy and see if he's the better one for you.
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Reply by roselevalley Mar 22nd, 2012 at 9:05AM
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Posted by EmilyFaith77 Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:23PM
I see... I'm fifteen, but I'll give this my best shot,
Are you in love with your spouse? If not you need to quit feeling bad about it and tell him/her. You need to talk to this other person you are in love with, but it's much better to act without the attached marriage than it is to tell your love while you're still married, even if you have no intentions of hurting your spouse, one thing does lead to another and you will end up hurting everyone, yourself included.
Remember that this is your life, the only one you get to live. It has been twenty years but do you really want to wait another minute? Time is going by for heaven's sake.
But, if you are in love with both your love and your spouse, well... That's where things are confusing. Talk to your spouse, he/she needs to know what's going on, it isn't easy, but you have to tell. You are lying by omission if you don't tell, and even if you are not in love, this is still a marriage and you took vows, be honest. Be an open book.
I don't know if this helps at all but I've been dating this guy for a year and a half, and I liked this other guy at one point, I was scared to tell my boyfriend but I did and things were worked out. I realized that even though I liked this other guy, he was a total *** and could never be anything like what my boyfriend is for me. Understanding and forever patient with someone as batty as me.
Good luck :)
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Reply by roselevalley Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:35PM
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Reply by EmilyFaith77 Mar 21st, 2012 at 3:55PM
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Posted by SkippingTheGoldenYears Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:09PM
You should not be with your spouse if you are in love with someone else, that's just not fair at all
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Reply by roselevalley Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:13PM
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Posted by ddandme Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:07PM
if you edit your details you can add the rest of your question
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Reply by roselevalley Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:14PM
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Reply by ddandme Mar 21st, 2012 at 1:17PM
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