I have been married for 5 years. My Husband don't pay much attention to me anymore, what can I do?
23 Answers to "I have been married for 5 years. My Husband don't pay much attention to me anymore, what can I do?"
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Spend less time on the computer, do somethings to GET His Attention.
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Talk to him if not marriage couseling.
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you have received good advice, look at your appearance, try dressing to please him, check out your attitude. Your speech,
Think back to when you were dating. Try bringing some of those things into the marriage. Ask him out on a date and plans something special
good luck
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Suggest more date nights (with each other, lol), tell him you feel like you have drifted apart and it scares you, because you can't live like that forever. Married people take each other for granted from time to time. Remind yourselves that you are there because you both chose to be and make the best of what you got, because starting over will give you the same thing in time. Good luck. Feel free to message me. I've been through this.
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Thanks. most of our marriage we have been separated. Because he was over the road truck driving while I was in and out of the hospital with a blood disorder while raising 3 kids which one is autistic. So we have been trying but then things fall apart he spends more time on his phone when he home then with me or our kids.
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Oh, it's tough.. I can relate to the alone thing. What jonjon said though. So true!
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How many divorced women I've worked with who start dressing nicely, lovely hair cuts, go to gym etc. why didn't they do it when they were married! Same for men. Ask yourself if you were just starting to go out with your partner, would you dress like you do, not shave, fart, etc
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Mandatory weekly date night
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Whatever you do, DON'T talk about it. Pointing out the problem will just make him feel pressured.
Either jump his bones or arrange a date night, do something that will remind you both of when you were first dating, then put the moves on him in a playful way. Ban serious subjects for the duration of the date. You are NOT allowed to talk about problems, issues or anything dull or serious that has any relation to your day-to-day lives.
Don't wait for him to arrange it, just do it. Say "when are you free I want us to go do something fun together".
If he can't pull it together enough to have fun with you, seek further assistance but still don't pull that "we need to talk" crap.Like (1)
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Watch the episode 'Be A Pal' from "I Love Lucy"
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need to work him up,and let him think about it, he will be looking for you soon enough.
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Gonna be honest here. Are you a chubby , spend all day in sweat pants & the house is a ******* tip?..Is he a lard *** , drives a pick up & says "y'all"?..The you are trailer trash & you need trailer trash converter....Send me $10'000 & I will make you into upwardly mobile trailer trash..
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I stayed married for 20+ years, living with situations that should have gotten better, but didn't. I wish now that I would have said to myself and to her, "If we don't fix this, I'm not staying married." I think we would have fixed it, but if not, it would have saved a lot of pain. It makes it more difficult when you have small children, because he may say "ok, let's split up." But frankly, if he doesn't consider the marriage worth fighting to keep, then you're better off separate anyway. That's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth. I wish you the best, whatever you decide.
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Well the question you have to ask yourself is if he is acting different is he coming home later then before is he not making love to you the way he used to and is he getting phone calls or making phone calls and saying he is going out with his friends if so because he isn't cheating on you.
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When he does talk to you do not tale your eyes off him and make him think what he is saying is the most important thing in the world weather it is or not.
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Sweetcakes, I have been married for 30 yrs and my wife won't give me attention any more. If this is happening to u already, u r in for the long haul. Don't know your situation but 5 yrs is not very long at all. Turn this around. What if u were in my situation, what would u do. I am still looking for answers. I want sex, she doesn't. U tell me what I should do.
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Be romantic show her you think of her. Be spontaneous. Some women don't care for sex, especially when a man just goes and gropes her and says lets go and after she has kids her energy goes down. I dont know what advice to give you because i'm the opposite.
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I have sent flowers to her on her job. She really did love that and was supprised. We still love each other but we just don't click anymore. She does her thing and I do mine. We have 2 preteens. By the way I don't pressure her into sex because I understand the way she feels. I am a very laid back person, and can take a lot, but even I have my limits. We even go out to eat once in a while. But not haveing sex in 4 yrs, now u r pushing th limit. Thanks for your response
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OK--What do YOU do"Differantly" to make him WANT to pay attention to You?
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Take control of him, put him in lingerie and make him be your wife for a change. He may well like it
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What changed?
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three kids is what changed. she is probably fat, and not sexy anymore. look sexy, get kinky, all that will change!Like (1)
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Blow him, slowly.
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Hire a hot pool boy.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by FreshfacesNewbeginnings Mar 4th, 2013 at 2:12PM
Do you pay HIM attention?
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