Spend less time on the computer, do somethings to GET His Attention.
Talk to him if not marriage couseling.
Do you pay HIM attention?
you have received good advice, look at your appearance, try dressing to please him, check out your attitude. Your speech,<br />
Think back to when you were dating. Try bringing some of those things into the marriage. Ask him out on a date and plans something special<br />
good luck<br />
Suggest more date nights (with each other, lol), tell him you feel like you have drifted apart and it scares you, because you can't live like that forever. Married people take each other for granted from time to time. Remind yourselves that you are there because you both chose to be and make the best of what you got, because starting over will give you the same thing in time. Good luck. Feel free to message me. I've been through this.
Oh, it's tough.. I can relate to the alone thing. What jonjon said though. So true!
How many divorced women I've worked with who start dressing nicely, lovely hair cuts, go to gym etc. why didn't they do it when they were married! Same for men. Ask yourself if you were just starting to go out with your partner, would you dress like you do, not shave, fart, etc
Mandatory weekly date night
I'm going to tell you what my "EX" husband told me, He said not to depend on him for my happiness nor the attention I needeed. Sooooo I got that, took that, and kept that in mind and started doing things that I enjoyed doing without him yet made me feel good. Now if you still are in Love with him maybe some new Lingerie, perfume, or canle Light Dinner! Five yrs. should still be honeymoon yrs. but thing change!....I wish you the best and start finding and doing things "you" enjoy again without him.....That will get his "ATTENTION"!
Whatever you do, DON'T talk about it. Pointing out the problem will just make him feel pressured.<br />
Either jump his bones or arrange a date night, do something that will remind you both of when you were first dating, then put the moves on him in a playful way. Ban serious subjects for the duration of the date. You are NOT allowed to talk about problems, issues or anything dull or serious that has any relation to your day-to-day lives.<br />
Don't wait for him to arrange it, just do it. Say "when are you free I want us to go do something fun together".<br />
If he can't pull it together enough to have fun with you, seek further assistance but still don't pull that "we need to talk" crap.
Watch the episode 'Be A Pal' from "I Love Lucy"
need to work him up,and let him think about it, he will be looking for you soon enough.
When he does talk to you do not tale your eyes off him and make him think what he is saying is the most important thing in the world weather it is or not.
Sweetcakes, I have been married for 30 yrs and my wife won't give me attention any more. If this is happening to u already, u r in for the long haul. Don't know your situation but 5 yrs is not very long at all. Turn this around. What if u were in my situation, what would u do. I am still looking for answers. I want sex, she doesn't. U tell me what I should do.
I have sent flowers to her on her job. She really did love that and was supprised. We still love each other but we just don't click anymore. She does her thing and I do mine. We have 2 preteens. By the way I don't pressure her into sex because I understand the way she feels. I am a very laid back person, and can take a lot, but even I have my limits. We even go out to eat once in a while. But not haveing sex in 4 yrs, now u r pushing th limit. Thanks for your response
OK--What do YOU do"Differantly" to make him WANT to pay attention to You?
Take control of him, put him in lingerie and make him be your wife for a change. He may well like it
three kids is what changed. she is probably fat, and not sexy anymore. look sexy, get kinky, all that will change!
Blow him, slowly.
Hire a hot pool boy.
What is his job?
::hugs:: i know that feel.