Don't change for anyone. That won't make you happy and won't attract the right person for you. Maybe you're going after the wrong type of woman for you. The right person for you will like you just as you are. So many relationships fail when people play games and try to "get" someone to like them.
I think the best relationships begin with friendship! Smart & funny are the most attractive qualities in a man. What is laddish?
Well, honestly, the girls looking for arrogant guys are either shallow or immature. My ex husband was that way...we met when I was 17....and I have come to realize over the years that the most important thing is to be able to really relate to someone. Good looks always fade, intelligence and humor do not! Good luck to you!
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