I think it is more complicated than awful. We don't know what is really going on in everyone elses personal lives, so we should not be making judgements. Personally, I would not do it... Not because of my "morals" or reverence for outdated institutions, but because I would not want to cause emotional pain for my mate. If we hadn't agreed to an open marriage I should not be practicing one with the closest friend he has, right behind his back.
I think you should not judge another without knowing the whole story,,,,and all the circumstances involved,,,
Meh, depends on the circumstance. "Oh no?! She had an affair?!" "Oh, he's refused to touch her for years and is cheating on her?" It's easy to judge when you're not in the picture.
Affairs when you're married is awful regardless who it's with. With his friend costs times two..the cheater and his friend.
Years ago an my now ex-husband and I broke up about the same time as another couple we were friends with. We literally switched partners - clearly the attraction was there all along and the marriage was already dead. Ex and new woman actually married and had a child together. Life is more complicated than we like to believe.
its really bad not only in the eye of other people hu knows,but spescially to god,she must be ashame of what's her doing!we can say she have reason that's y she do that.but if she really want to have affair to that bestfriend of her husband,then better she divorced his husband.if she's already maried y not stick to his husband?either his husband is good or bad,she must respect their marriage.
This is why I don't have best friends
When anyone cheats with their spouse's best friend, whether it's the wife OR husband, both they AND the so-called friend are guilty of disloyalty.
Cheating is bad. Yes. Doesn't matter the circumstances. If you cheat, something is broken in the relationship. Either come clean & try & fix it; fix it before you cheat or break it off before you cheat.
It's not always an affair. Sometimes, he was the guy encouraging you to stay with your husband, his childhood friend. Sometimes, he's the one that supported you, listened to you when you were angry, crying and hopeless because your husband was too emotionally unavailable to function.
Then when you've separated from your husband and filled for divorce, everything becomes clear. You and your ex's friend realize that you love each other and get along extremely well.
Does that sound completely awful?
Same as when men do the same.