I have loved him unconditionlly six years and he shows the same then he pulls away?

It takes two to communicate. It takes communication to maintain a healthy relationship.

Listen Sister, I feel your pain. I've had exactly the same thing with a man I loved with all my heart. he was charming, intelligent, we were in my mind a perfect match and so happy when we were together. I was shocked/brokenhearted each time he'd withdraw and delighted each time he came back. He was pulling the whirlwind romance trick to get me right back in, sometimes as long as 2 months after withdrawing.

I have some advice, it has worked for me, and for my girlfriends. You have to be tough. You can't get through to a man at a time like this with words. He will respond to ACTIONS. I can promise you, you will drive him further away with all this I love you unconditionally, why can't we talk, business. How do you expect him to show respect for you when you're not standing up for yourself? You're making his disrespect 'normal' by even getting into it.

If he removes himself from the ongoing relationship, you are not duty bound to remain there waiting. You are not on this earth to keep the homefires burning for whenever he wishes to bestow his company on you again.

ACTION: Get out, live your life. It isn't easy, I met a guy in 2003 and he blew hot and cold for years, promising marriage, then getting cold feet. I know what I'm talking about. Somehow though, he had an expectation I was to remain committed to him unconditionally!! I was to be the one with the steadfast love. It was tough last year when I said enough. I went out, dated other guys, and guess what? Bet you'll get it right. This commitmentphobe who wasted my time and wouldn't talk when I wanted, well he's trying to get back now after 9 months of being apart. He has tried every 2 or 3 months to get back and I just wouldn't let him back into my life. I said, you walked out before, took breaks when it suited you, how do I know you won't break my heart again? So I wouldn't let him step back into my life as easily. Now he really misses me, he has value on getting into my life.

I don't know if it would work out if we did get back. I'm meeting new people, taking on new challenges, my life is a lot more exciting than when I was miserably waiting for him, trying to work out WHY. I'll tell you why, because I let him back in whenever he wanted. But I have a feeling if I did let him back into my life now, VERY slowly too, he would be a lot slower to withdraw from it. He wouldn't be as cavalier this time round.

So that's how you get your power back, if he withdraws, you go right along with that. Hold your dignity and do what you'd do if you were single - because you really are single - you are not being committed to. He has had YEARS and he isn't doing the right thing. Cut him out and don't let him back unless you get the commitment. Even then, do it slowly, make him start from the beginning, see him once a fortnight, then once a week. Leave it at least a few months and he has proven himself before you get intimate.

If he doesn't come back, you've saved yourself more wasted time. But I'd bet he will be back when you are busy with your own life rather than keeping the home fires burning for such an unsatisfactory 'relationship'.

You are at the helm of your life, don't forget it. You will never get these years again. Trust life, go through the pain and things will work out. Maybe with a different man :)

XXBEST OF LUCK

Minnie

.....um im sorry

I'm assuming you are asking why he might be doing so?

Could be many reasons....maybe there's another woman....maybe he has issues from childhood that causes him to not get too close, before pulling back....maybe he's stressed....Maybe he's rethinking the relationship ....I'd ask him what's going on....he may not even know himself....

Suggest counseling...or couple's counseling....to get to the bottom of it. Good luck.

Talk to him. Who knows, maybe he just has hemroids or something.

it's a game. u got six more years to waste? leave his azz and if he loves u he'll want u back and will make an effort to get u. i couldn't put in six more years, or minutes even... life's too short.

Did he lose his Job, or is he about to face unemployment.does he have a Health issue. Are you searching for answers, as you aren't to forth coming on your Question.

OMG!! The same thing happened to me no less than a month ago! I made an attempted to speak to him, but when I was talking to him and asking him questions he seemed uninterested, he was slouched over with his head in his hands and his eyes closed, his body language alone was telling me that he doesn't care, so I ended that. You probably won't get the same response I did, but at least try to talk to him and let him know how you feel about the situation and based on his reaction make the right decision for yourself. If he's not showing you the kind of attention you want/need anymore, let him know that and if he's not willing to make an attempt to keep you happy then he's not worth ya time. It's not like y'all are married. Better yet, imagine if you were married to him . . . instead of an f*cked up boyfriend you'd have a f*cked up husband. The situation your in right now is the main reason why is okay to have multiple boyfrieds (NOT AT THE SAME TIME!) so you can figure out exactly what you want, and you don't need another *******, God already blessed you with one, so if ya man ain't doin like he did b4, keep it movin! Spend some time to yourself, boyfriend #2 will probably be better anyway.

This is a mere challenge- this will happen many times in your life- it is just a test of your relationship and a challenge for you to truly accept him and to see if you can overcome it and grow.

Maybe ur n0t meant to be.Thatz y., and it only signifies that even long relati0nship is not an asurance 4 the word "4ever" and even "4 a lifetime". But believe me,still there is s0me0ne meant 4 u.. G0od luck on ur j0urney.-mwah=)