I havn't talked to my mom is 2 weeks, that's ok rright?
I'm a little scared to ask this question. It's silly right? I'm grown. I've spent so much time on here recently...when I'm here I don't think about it. But in the real world it crosses my mind often.
She's always been kind of crazy. These past few years she's been alot of crazy. She's one of those toxic parents. I'm an only child too. We live in the same town. I'd had enough of it all a few weeks ago and told her to stay away from me. She has. What on earth do I need her for?!?! But still, like I said, when I'm not here...the thoughts and wondering blah blah start creeping in
Any advice? Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
6 Answers to "I havn't talked to my mom is 2 weeks, that's ok rright?"
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I haven't spoken to my mother in years.Not saying I don't love her but she causes so much pain ( crazy crap) that I had to stop seeing her.
If you can bear it... But need a rest. Then better for you
If you can't bear it. You must remember it was never all on you.She has her percentage here tooLike (1)
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I'm afraid that I can't give you advice on that because I haven't seen or spoken to my father for 20 years now. We are like each others nemesis and so we avoid each other like the plague. Compared to that 2 weeks is like the bl
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Well, do what makes you feel comfortable. If you want to talk to her, go ahead cause that will give you some mental peace whereas if you just want to see how she is doing, even a text would suffice. Its the same with me, sometimes my mother irritates me to the pretext of me telling her to not call me and days pass but then this thought appears of how things are going with her and at home, so i just pick up the phone and call.
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Seems like she is mentally ill, you are the only child so if something happens it may be on your conscious the rest of your life. Sorry she is toxic to you.
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If you're taking a two week vacation from a toxic parent I'd say it's okay. Taking a break is better than going crazy.
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Posted by garbagequeen Feb 1st, 2013 at 9:15AM
If you're up for it, seriously check out "The Work" by Byron Katie. Often we just cause ourselves pain by living in our thoughts that aren't always true and she has free worksheets on her site to help you work thru those beliefs and some really good vids on youtube. Good stuff :)
But in my opinion it yes IS ok. You know she is toxic for you, and keeping your distance is probably healthy for your sanity! She probably doesn't mean to hurt you and drag you down.. some people just are like that, as you know. It doesn't make you a bad daughter or person just to take a break from energy that is sapping yours. :) You've gotta look out for yourself and maybe this break will make something 'click' in her? It's all good.
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