*sigh* I'm sorry to say this, but you are completely wrong with your definition on friends with benefits.. you have the idea of him being your boyfriend, you need to set in your mind the following concept: **** buddy.
Friends with benefits is suppose to be just someone to have sex with when you don't have anyone else. Once emotions come into play then it's no longer just about the guilt free sex. If you like or love him by all means be up front and tell him but at the end of the day he only signed up for the sex. So you can't blame him if he doesn't want to be tied down. If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings then there really is nothing you can do about that. Move on. Maybe you're one of those people that can't have a **** buddy because your emotions will always get in the way. This isn't a bad thing but it's definitely something you should keep in mind when pursuing other relationships.
it never works in the movies.. they always fall in love. awww...
the whole friends with benefits can actually work (i speak from personal experience), but it depends on the people involved. Also, the longer it lasts, the more feelings come into play to change things.
It is a shame what happened and that guy who hadn't been upfront with you from the word go messed you up a little. You didn't know that your feelings would grow and he should have been upfront with you when you two make a plan to hang out together. If and when he comes back, maybe you should make plans with friends and not with him anymore.
HI Friend Can i please be frank with friends like that who needs enemies You told him something that you thought you could but it did not work out that way so if i were you there are plenty more fish in the sea. I would love to be your friend you could tell me anything and what ever it may be it is only between u and i . Message me and cheer up you can do a lot better after all u are a good person you have a good heart and a kind soul..Your friend Antonia
FWB...who gets the benefits? He gets to have his cake and eat it while you pine for a relationship. Sorry, but it sounds like he was liking the whole "no strings" sex thing....Friends with benefits is using a relationship with someone who cares for you to get sex...it's fine if its casual sex for both concerned, but the problem arises when one person falls for the other...best to stop his benefits...I know you'll miss him, but the deeper you fall the harder it will hurt...you have to be honest and tell him your feelings have chnged-you do risk losing him...but, ultimately you need to know. And, if he is happy to get sex from you but rejects the thought of having a relationship with you is he really worth your friendship???
friends with benefits isn't a relationship!
Take away his benefits. Geez. If he is hesitating to be with you because it feels like a relationship.......... Nevermind, I am just too old for this.
Friends with benefits is, to me, very much like being taken for granted.**I'll stick with you for the se x until I find someone I'd like to have a real relationship with.**
Makes me shudder even thinking about it.
maybe its a good thing, friends with benifits is just immoral