I just wanna be nice?

i always thought that i was a piece of shit and never felt excepted. i feel i am nice to most ppl as long as they are nice to me, but i just asked this girl how nice am i scale of 1-10 and 10 being nicest and she said a 5. than i said name one thing i did mean to u and she couldnt think of anything cause i am always nice to her. i want ppl to no that i am really nice but cant be taken advantage of. what can i do to show ppl that i am super nice and compassionate but not look like a pussy.

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Why is one girl's opinion so important? What the hell is nice anyway? A complete jerk can be nice. I have run across enough of your writings here to form an impression of you and it's not bad at all. Assuming that you are being honest.

Look... Why is it so important for you to be nice? What are you really after? Acceptance? If so, why? If you are driven by the acceptance of others, then you will always be defined by and dependant upon others.

Take an honest look at yourself and change the things you don't like and then accept yourself. If others agree with your assertion, then great! If not, so the hell what!

You have to be careful about what's "nice". If I unexpectedly slap you in the face, that's not nice. If however, there is a deadly spider on your face, I was being very nice. People DO INDEED see the heart rather they realize it or not. How's your heart? It will come out in your body language no matter how nice your actions or words are.

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Emptysoul30	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 2:58AM She may have rated you a 5 because she's grown to expect you to be nice to her. You should really only be REALLY nice to the people who actually deserve it. Just be fairly nice to everyone else, and don't be a doormat in the process! :p Rated: +5Vote for this!
TrgdyAnn	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 2:58AM Trust me.......sensitivity works for a man. Women 'LOVE' that! Rated: +3Vote for this!
Yohanna	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 3:18AM Be kind, compassionate, and considerate - with definitive boundaries. Speak with authority (like Jesus- not in a mean way), but smile and know you 'audience'. If they need a gentler approach, then do so. You do not want to overpower anyone. :-) Rated: +1Vote for this!
mzdivine	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 10:10PM Learn to express yourself better! Hoe fast were you thinking? Rated: +1Vote for this!
miguelote	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 12:07AM So be considerate of others and offer help whenever possible.Sometimes not offering assisstance to people is seen as being mean.Many people are also sensitive these days so simple mistakes can be seen as totally inconsiderate behaviour. When people get to know through enough situations they will truly see your level of kindness. Rated: +1Vote for this!
laceset	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 12:07AM You can still portray your a good guy just don't let people use you. Lend a helping hand, listen to people, and be a positive person by encouraging. You also have to meet them half way if they are not willing that is your choice. People will see that in your charcter as person. People learn how you teach them. Example, if your always giving money to someone in a helping hand and they never seem to want to help themselves your are enabling them to do the right thing. Watch your tone and your body language people can pick up on that immedialy Good luck! Rated: +1Vote for this!
NancyDrew	Posted Aug 1st, 2009 at 1:21AM Then be nice and stop worrying about looking like a *****. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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