Yes and I'm a bit further down the line than you, I have told him countless times its over, he has the message now, we have been living seperate lives for 2 years he does his thing, i do mine. He was and still is at times a verbally abusive lying cheating monster, but one day i just stood up to him and had the balls to say enough is enough! I have been married for 20 long years with him 25. I am now in the process of getting out with my 2 daughters, i was terrified at the prospect, but now i have less fear as i got sick of being scared balls to him, he can shag around as much as he likes now i really don't give a damn!<br />
You don't say what country your from, i have a couple of things that i have done to ensure my daughters and me will be ok. Im a housewife, but when im out of here and have my girls stable and settled i want to have a job.You have to think of yourself and kids here....get the hell away from him YOU CAN DO IT! I am and im not looking back and also i was the biggest chicken, you will gain gumption, guts, courage or whatever you need but you will be fine, i know i will be.SO WILL YOU !!! Trust in yourself ! Bollocks to him throw a bloody big tantrum at him and see how he likes it....Ive done it and they can't handle it! Also one day you will meet someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated with lots of love and respect.......Believe me its possible ......I KNOW ; )
You make the decision when you want to leave. However, have everything in place first, without his knowing. He is not entitled to know. See a lawyer. Get a peace bond on him. Arrange with a women's shelter and if you have children take them with you.The shelters have counselling services to help you take charge of your life and those of your children and make something of yourself. You owe it to yourself and your children to get out of there now.
If love and comprimise doesnt overcome the tribulation then just leave because you are somebody. I believe though true love can conquer anything in a relationship but if it is only one sided then it is a waste. Do what you feel is right. Im sure your no angel yourself.