I know he has to hit rock bottom and want to get help. But, I'm worried that he will kill himself if I stop helping him.
His wife has left him, he has 2 DUI convictions (both within the same month), he has no driver's license now, he's unemployed, he owes fines & has community service work to do. I've told his wife that she has to be strong and not keep going back to him. I told her to quit buying him cigarettes and especially alcohol. I told her to let him have to stand on his own and he will have to get better--either on his own or by going to treatment. My husband committed suicide about 4 years ago and my brother is the only family I have left (I have two teenage sons). My brother says he would be better off to kill himself--I know I can't stop him. If someone wants to do it--they find a way. I know I have to be strong and let him hit rock bottom, but now he's asking about coming to live with me---I know I need to say no. But how do you do that when they have no one to help them???
4/7/12: I wanted to give everyone an update. The Lord works in mysterious ways. He was forced into a 7 Day Detox program when a local law enforcement agent (one of his few friends) came by to check on him and he was drunk-breaking the rules of his probation. I got in touch with his probation officer and begged them to force him into a structured extended recovery program. They agreed. He's in the program now and he's been sober for about 2-3 weeks now. Please keep him in your prayers -- I hope this really works for him this time. Thanks to everyone for your support :)
UPDATE: He left rehab after about 6 weeks. Stayed sober about a week and drank a couple of times. Wife has come back to him - I can't see him changing if he always has her to fall back on. He has to go take a breathalyzer test 3-4 times per week. He's just drinking on the days he doesn't have to go. Really at my wits end - I don't know if I should just quit having anything at all to do with him or just accept that this is how he's going to be.