I like my bf but he has worked in the same place for 10years and same position I've only known him for 2 wks but I would
like him to want do something that he likes but with better pay, and stable, he gets only 600 a fortnight he gets the same pay as me and I'm on disability of course trying, am I being selfish to think of this or no?
19 Answers to "I like my bf but he has worked in the same place for 10years and same position I've only known him for 2 wks but I would"
-
What would you say to him if after two weeks he told you to get off disability and try harder?
Like (2)
-
If you had been together for a year or more you MIGHT have cause to speak on this topic.
At this point his career is his business and you would do well to respect that he has a job and stay out of it.Like (2)
-
Sounds like you are looking for more financial security and that's ok. Keep looking....two weeks into and you are doubting this much aint good
Like (2)
-
no you got it wrong i aint doughting it i just want hat is better for him
Like (1)
-
My bad. Misread what you meant. If he doesn't want to improve his status then decide if it's worth going forward. When I met my wife I was just divorced, bankrupt, and in an emotional pit. she was patient and helpful to give me the support I needed. Now I'm back to bread winner, emotionally strong, and taking care of her.
Like (1)
-
You only know him for 2 weeks...you called him bf and now you are going to tell him to earn more? Sorry....but I think you are selfish
Like (2)
-
Yes, you're being selfish. When one finds their niche, they're usually happy (there's more to life than money). Get to know him better before you start to nag at him.
Like (2)
-
i haven't been nagging i haven't even brought it up only once or twice but i have left it because i like him
Like (1)
-
With the economy as unstable as it is...at least he has a SECURE job...that is more than a LOT of people get...stay the course...
Like (2)
-
Do you love him for him or his money?...
Like (2)
-
no i love him i don't want to let him go
Like (1)
-
-
Look that gift horse in the mouth.
Like (1)
-
No you're not . you know he can do better . I wonder what is his problem , is he afraid of change ?
Like (1)
-
i think he is afraid of change he doesn't take risks i think
Like (1)
-
get to know him better maybe he lacks some education and you can talk to him in a more productive way once you have been with him awhile . I don't think you are trying to use him for his money
Like (1)
-
Very selfish
Like (1)
-
I think you have two options as I believe all people do with anyone;
1) Accept them as they are
OR
2) Choose not to incorporate them into your life
Wonder how he feels about your being on disability and receiving the same amount that he gets for working? - I am not saying you are not disabled or not entitled to receive it but you certainly don't seem in a position to be complaining about ones career choice.Like (1)
-
You've only known him for two weeks. How do you know he's not happy where he is? Some people don't need to move up in their jobs. Some people prefer the same grind because it's their comfort zone.
You're being selfish, but not because you want more. It's because you're not considering that this change might make him very unhappy.Like (1)
-
He is who he is. If he isn't right for you you should move on and do him a favour rather than try to change him.
Like (1)
-
You've only known him for 2 weeks and you are thinking about his finances?? Wooooo.
Like (1)
-
Only two weeks? I wouldn't even call him a boyfriend yet. If he's happy and pays his bills, it's not your business to judge----yet.
Like (1)
-
Alittle yes
Like (1)
-
very selfish
Like (1)
-
Two weeks, and you're already trying to change him. Poor guy!
Like (1)
Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by carlingblacklabel Mar 13th, 2013 at 9:08AM
10 years? I'd be lucky having the same job for 10 weeks. He's a keeper or would you prefer a job hopping bum like me?
[ Reply ] | Like (3)