I miss being a mommy so much it feels like my heart is bleeding. What to do?

Asked By: sosadallday 46-50, F 1 year ago

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Posted by rodrwill1 Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:36PM

If having another child or being a grandmother isn't an option at the moment, perhaps volunteering somewhere with children would be an idea. Like a day-care or pediatric burn unit at a hospital or something.

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 26th, 2012 at 12:07AM

it's the whole THING I miss- the getting up and making breakfast, THEM being around.
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Reply by rodrwill1 Feb 26th, 2012 at 12:14AM

Unless you have another child or a grandchild, you'll never get that. You have either already figured out what you have to do based on your rejection of most of the suggestions here, or perhaps you need to focus on yourself again. What were your dreams and ambitions when you were a teenager and in your 20's? Was there anything you gave up to become a parent that you stopped pursuing? It's okay for you to be "selfish" again and reclaim your life as your own. You gave more than enough of your life to children, I feel its time to focus on you again.
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Posted by Nyxii Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:33PM

What happened???

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:37PM

my kids grew up and moved out- it's been years and I just get sadder. I have tried to keep my mind busy, but, it's not the same- I feel lonely and useless
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Posted by DBNoMore Feb 26th, 2012 at 12:09AM

What about volunteering in a hospital or a children's center. Become a big sister. Mentor someone. Help out in a daycare center. Volunteer in a school, at a camp, at an after school program.

There are so many children out there who would give anything for a minute of your time.

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Posted by blink8blink Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:46PM

yeah knock your self up again, theres a lady in india 75 yr old, her daughter was sterile. she bore her 3 test tube babies. from memory she died at about 80. your only 45/50. get knocked up again and check with the kids weather they can look after your newby if things go awry

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Posted by doodlebird Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:36PM

foster puppies from the animal shelter..seriously..that's what i did.

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 26th, 2012 at 12:09AM

I like this idea- i love dogs- but I love them soooo much I would want to KEEP all of them, then I'd be on that pet hoarding show.
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Posted by Joseph84 Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:34PM

Have you considered being a foster mom?

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:41PM

isn't that just a temporary thing?
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Reply by Joseph84 Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:54PM

In some cases, but in many of these kids, they never get turned back over to the parents. I have a great friend who was raised by a foster mother from the age of 4. Foster parents have love, and kids need love. win/win. :)
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Posted by realityvsdream Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:34PM

Hugs. You ok?

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:38PM

thanx, im ok, just don't like this new life phase------
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Reply by realityvsdream Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:41PM

Im done as well. I always wanted four, but... two is it for me now. I understand. You never know....:)
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Posted by BuckarooBonzai Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:33PM

First don't take a bath cause you have no time. Then run in place until you are dead tired. Then take a bunch of toys and throw them everywhere until you have to jump over them to get anywhere. There, don't you feel like a Mommy now?

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:38PM

I loved all the hectic child rearing stuff
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Posted by iguanachips Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:33PM

Get a pet.

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:39PM

I have many pets- I think i need a ZOO, anyone giving a Zoo away?
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Reply by iguanachips Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:41PM

Eee! Maybe not. Is there something you've always wanted to do ? Like travelling somewhere or learning to sing ? You need adventure, mate :o)
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Posted by SoulSucker Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:33PM

Is being a grandparent still an option?

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Reply by sosadallday Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:39PM

yes- but both my kids have informed me they don't "WANT" children- so, I can only pray.
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Reply by SoulSucker Feb 25th, 2012 at 11:40PM

:O Maybe they'll get knocked up like I did after I said I never wanted kids.
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