For me, unfortunately, no. Nice and loving equals friendship. There has to be chemistry and I don't believe that it wears off although it may change and hopefully grow with love. You deserve passion along with companionship....don't settle for nice, it gets boring.
I think ex chemistry is tricky. It's intense for a few reasons that don't necessarily speak to the lasting power of the union. But if you two don't intend to get back together, she's right to avoid you...she has to move on. Men can often be intimate and not get their feelings muddled. I'm not saying that's you, but again, if you're not going to make something of it, it's just a crutch.
And you're right, relationships still fail with chemistry...as they also do without it. The closest thing that I can think of to what you've described is when you've discovered that you love someone after the intensity of infatuation fades...When you love the person for who they are instead of how you feel with them. Committing to a relationship is an intellectual decision of choosing to remain constant throughout the ebb and flow of passion. In that sense, you're spot on...it outweighs chemistry. But my feeling is that you won't stick around long enough to make that decision without good chemistry.
i dont need chemistry, i must enjoy company,spark will follow.
Arranged marriages often do not have chemistry. And I imagine that it can be developed over time. But I feel without chemistry, there is no attraction. That is why some have love that is not reciprocated-there is no chemistry. I doubt chemistry wears off. It takes chemistry and a whole lot more to make a relationship work, Trev971. Are you asking this question because you are experiencing this situation or is this just an opinion?