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I really like my boss and I think he fells the same way about me. He asked me out. What should I do?

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While two persons having loving, romantic feelings is wonderful, I don't think it is a good idea for a boss and an
employee to date!

Perhaps you might take the same course as my maternal grandparents did! He was her boss at work; after acknowledging their romantic feelings for each other, one of them got a job at a different company; thus, they were then able to pursue their romantic relationship without there even being the appearance of a conflict of interest!
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Posted Dec 1st, 2008 at 2:06PM
Well it has the chance of being great if it all works out nicely but if it doesnt then you are in a world of hurt with your heart and your job.....proceed with caution!
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:09PM
Romances between co-workers or the boss never work!
Trust me on this one.
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:09PM
DO NOT DO IT !!!!! Mixing work and non work is a bad idea......and it is even worse when it is your Boss....That is just a dark hall way with the boogie man at the end...

Let me run it by you this way...

1. You and you boss date.....And it becomes a pretty good thing.....Now it is time for promotions....or raises....You get a good one...But you friend that knows you are dating the boss does not.....Well how fast do you think that it would get around that you got a head.....By giving the boss head...(sorry bad pun)
And if it never did get around...There would always be that small idea in the back of your mind of "Did I really earn this...or am I just selling myself to the highest bidder...

2. And what about when it is over....Would you really want
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:09PM
No, No, No! If you do it, regret will surely follow. If you don't care about the job, then go for it. I think it's a bad idea. It can lead to office politics that make you a miserable person, why put yourself through that? You'd be viewed badly, probably so whould he, if not leading to a bad outcome of his possible termination,(yours too!) depending on the rules in place...good luck.
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:09PM
No, no, NO!

If he were a co-worker, it would be fine. But NOT if he is the boss! (It wouldn't work if you were the boss, either!) Issues of power, money, control.... plus the other people in the office.... no, no, no!

Not only that, but since he is the boss, he should NOT have asked you.

Look for another job!
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:06PM
Forget it. Love on the business front never works out. You can date him but if it doesnt work out than it puts a damper on the working together scene. It would be very difficult to work for him because the boss is not the boss anymore but someone you have had an intimate relationship with. Very touchy situation!!
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
If you care at all about the job, be platonic only.
If you could survive without this job, and Boss is irresistible, go for it and don't be surprised if you lose the job when affair is over.
Have no expectations. Not a good way to move up.
Be prepared for coworkers to talk and/or be difficult to deal with WHEN it is found out you're dating the Boss.
Plenty of other people in the world, why Boss?
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:10PM
If you date him you'll probably get a lot of raises, if you don't have a problem with that. But that will blow up in your face if things don't work out, then you'll end up screwed. I suggest that you either stay out of it, or you have a backup job just in case things go badly.
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:10PM
Do Not Do It!!!
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Posted Dec 1st, 2008 at 12:16PM
I agree with nymph - If he is a good guy and you enjoy his company go for it. If things got too bad you could always find another job. But on the other hand, if things went right you might wind up as the boss - ette
Good luck
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Danger ahead!!

Romance with a boss is not a good thing. Ever. If you fall in love (or in bed) you should quit.

Just my 2ยข
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Posted Dec 1st, 2008 at 6:16PM
accept if it feels right, but tread very carefully
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
business and pleasure mix as well as water and oil.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
ask for a raise first LOL
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:10PM
Well, you never know...
But just a word of warning. I once thought i reeally liked my boss, i dated him for almost 4 months.........................The worst 4 months of my life. There were warning signs though, that i chose to ignore subconsciously.
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Posted Dec 2nd, 2008 at 3:10PM
Most of the jobs I have lost in my life involved relationships with co-workers. It becomes almost unbearable to work together when things get ugly. I would advise to take a long look at your priorities before making your decision.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
be very careful... i dated my employee & got fired for it. they can't do anything to you though, thats considered retaliation. him asking you out could also be taken as sexual harrassment, regardless of how you feel about him.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Report yourself to HR.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
stay away from people you work with... it can turn ugly
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