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I really like my boss and I think he fells the same way about me. He asked me out. What should I do?

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While two persons having loving, romantic feelings is wonderful, I don't think it is a good idea for a boss and an
employee to date!

Perhaps you might take the same course as my maternal grandparents did! He was her boss at work; after acknowledging their romantic feelings for each other, one of them got a job at a different company; thus, they were then able to pursue their romantic relationship without there even being the appearance of a conflict of interest!
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
I would only advise it if you are planning on getting a different job. My sister lives with her boss... she started working for him, not a week later they were going on a date and not 3 months later she moved in with him... She still works for him and people talk about her behind her back about how she gets to do whatever she wants because she's screwing the boss... and worse he treats her like she's his inferior even at home! They see each other all day and fight a lot because of his superior attitude... the fights are not always left at home either, making everyone they work with uncomfortable. These relationships are very complicated (and I'm a romantic big time) but from what I've seen with my sis they don't work. They make each other miserable!
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
I had sex with my employer. She gave me no choice. It was **** or walk. I learned to enjoy it. She even gave me to her customers and made me have sex with them.

My advice however, is this. Don't do it if you want to keep your job and if you have any qualms about being turned into his ****. Tell him that you cannot date him while you work for him. Once you start, he will have made you into his *****. He pays you, and he will be ******* you. That makes you little more than his paid ****.

Instead, find another job. If you still want to date him, then you will be equals. But so long as he is your boss, you will never be equals.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Get another job before you start dating. It always ends up with hurt feelings. Coworkers can make your life hell if they find out about the relationship.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
My philosophy about dating someone in a work place is this: Never fish in the company pond.

Think about the consequences. Will you be getting special treatment that your coworkers will more than likely find out about? Will you mind when rumors start to circulate? Is he married? Are you? Will you be upset when the relationship ends and will you quit or seek revenge?
It's never a good idea to date a superior. Many companies have strict policies against it because it causes too many problems. Many companies won't even hire people who are related or married or engaged if they intend to work in the same department.
If you really want to date your boss, quit your job and THEN date him.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Personally .... I say GO FOR IT!!!!

Life is too short and regrets are worthless in your final hour.

He might become a trusted friend or even a romantic love.

If something "clicks" between the two of you and it becomes serious, one of you could always look for a new job.

This economy sucks for that thought but the alternative coud end up with a bunch of "what ifs?".

It's one date, carpe diem.

There is no future without living in the present.

Oh lord, I should work for Hallmark ;)
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