It's taken me over three years Hun and I still miss our time together sometimes but throughout it all there's been one thing in the back of my mind trust its gone .. And therefore there's no point ... Just let it happen one day you will come out on the other side .. Don't worry about how long it takes .. It don't really matter x
It takes time x
You're drawing the wrong conclusion. Loving someone more than yourself is the human condition. A better conclusion would be to keep an eye out for others like him so you can avoid a bad relationship of s similar type. This is true even if it was great and it ended by surprise. Don't worry. It's totally normal. I still miss my first love even though I haven't seen her in 27 years. It gets a LOT easier, I assure you - as time passes you can reminisce of why you loved him without feeling the pain anymore.
My pleasure. I came here looking for validation and help mending a broken heart, and it's nice to be able to give as well.
Your story sounds very familiar to me. My husband lied and cheated his way through our marriage, the more successful (financially) he became, the worse his behaviour. Took me years to recover from the hurt he caused me. Like you I left with a lot of questions. "How could he do that to ME"? being the biggest one. I treated him so well, did everything I could and more for him. Put him first and myself last."How could I have been so wrong about a person"? So it took me years to recover, long story short. I wish him well, he was just being himself, will never change. I also had to grieve for what could have been, all my hopes and dreams of our future together gone. That takes time as well. You'll get past it, just takes time.
this is exactly how i feel right now but the thing is even if i was loving myself would he still have hurt me to that degree?