I think I'm finally over the ex, should I invite him to my birthday party in September? Serious question(check details)
So I was looking through some old pictures and stuff and I didn't feel much more than "I'd like to catch up again". It was a mutual end, where we decided we'd like to still be friends. I think I'm finally over him, though I'm turning 21 and I'm inviting a bunch of other guy friends, one which I think I MIGHT be interested in. Anyone think it may be problematic?
Think of: personality clashes, stories of the past, where they'd sleep (I have an apartment), etc.
I just want your real opinion on this
15 Answers to "I think I'm finally over the ex, should I invite him to my birthday party in September? Serious question(check details)"
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No. I strongly advise against inviting him over. First, 21 bdays are traditionally a way for people to get **** faced. What if you say something to him along the lines of wanting to get back together? I am not saying you'd mean it sober, but a lot of people I know have texted their exes drunk and told them this.
What if you flirt with someone or they flirt with you and he becomes jealous? Doesn't mean he'd become jealous sober, but it's a what if.
For the sake of possibly being friends, don't invite him.Like (3)
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i think it could be problems
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The saying "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" holds water for a reason. Your comments show that you will probably invite the "ex" to your party. If there's no feelings for him there's no reason to invite him, right? If you want to stay over him then there's three answers I can give: no, No and NO. But if you want or need to see him then invite him and live with the post party fallout. :)
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I would not invite the ex to your birthday party. I think while you two can be civil and friendly to each other, that you have to have some kind of appropriate distance now that you're not together. And since you have a young man you might be interested in coming to your party, I think it would be more comfortable for both of you if the ex was not there.
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dont invite him hahha ur asking for trouble.
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Well I think that would be awkward
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A BIG NO! Don't even think about it. Move on girl, it's not worth it.
If you bring him over and your flirting with another guy, it will bother him, no matter how long. it's been or what's been said. Unless that's what you want to do, is get him jealous. Concentrate on the new guy. Leave the memories in the shoe box with the pictures and get on with your life.Like (2)
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I really don't want him jealous, it's not at all my priority. I just want to have fun with old and new friends
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It sounds like you still have strong feelings for your ex, and 5 months is like a blink of an eye. It's so easy to suppress your feelings for someone when you don't see them for awhile, but once your back face to face those feelings will come flooding back. This is not something you want to do in a party situation. can't see how he could be comfortable in that situation and if your lucky he would just leave bitter, if your unlucky there will be some type of fight, either between you and him or him and what ever guy has his eye on you. Go one on one if you want to see him again.
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No. Do not invite him, for the following reasons; 1) You want to too badly. 2) You are asking for ob
jective advice on here. 3) You are trying to convince yourself you're over him but you are also inviting someone you MIGHT be interested in. So you plan to make him jealous?
Seriously, if you want him back but you think he might not want you, don't invite him. His mere presence there will ruin the only 21st you will ever have. And if you don't want him back there is no need to invite him. Breaking up means breaking up. It's the end of itLike (2)
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I 200% do not want him back. And I just wanted to invite him so we could catch up, but according to some good answers from others I think I could save the catching up for a different time.
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Yep. Save it for 10 years time. Then you'll both have something real to catch up about
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I feel if you do it would be sending mixed messages to him. I would say no
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Big no from me too. Don't play with your head. MOVE on.
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The ex is an ex for a reason. Why would you invite an ex to anything? Really, what does that do? How does that help anybody to grow and become better? It doesn't and you know it. You aren't over your ex because if you were, you wouldn't be asking this question. Move on.
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Straight out and honest...., Move on!
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Don't. It doesn't sound like you're over him and it might look to him like you're trying to start something up. Let it go.
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I am over him! I don't ever want anything to start up again. I purposely avoided seeing and talking to him for 5 months so that I could distance myself. We ended it as wanting to be friends again in the future though. Throughout getting over him though I wasn't even focused on the friendship.
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Don't.
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I wouldn't open that door again..How long has it been..? Sounds like awhile. You should move on.
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That's what I'm saying though, I will not get back with him by any means. We just want to catch up and be friends again
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Posted by MicroCock47 1 Jul 24th, 2012 at 7:42PM
My answer is a qualified yes. The friendship thing worked out quite well for my ex and I. What started out as a decision to put our differences aside to provide a united front for our son quickly evolved into a friendship which is now stronger then before. We attended many of same social gatherings after others understood there would be no fireworks, and that we enjoyed each others company. In fact I was invited and attended her marriage to her second husband, and actually sat with her family during the wedding and at the reception, Now I'm not naive enough to think everyone will be like my ex and I, and I know that you need to go into this with both eyes wide open. Keepsunshiny, you need to realize you could be entering treacherous waters! First you say that you are totally over him : are you? What if you feel some of those old feelings start bubbling up to the surface again? What is your next move then? What if he doesn't reciprocate those feelings? Is he totally over you? What if he isn't? What happens if, like you, he feels that he is totally over you and finds the old feelings resurface at the party? What if you don't reciprocate his feelings, what happens then? These are just some of the things you will need to think hard and long about. You might want to bounce it off a trusted girlfriend, and one who also knows your ex would work the best. I also really think you need to talk with him to see what he is feeling; it will also give you an indication of how he will react to be at a social function with you; after all you don't want him to spoil you 21ST Birthday celebration.. If you feel positive about all the factors after you have weighed them, and if there will be friends of his there (you don't want him to have no friends he can talk with) then I say go for it! One last bit of advice is don't use the party as the place to "catch up" at the party you won't have the privacy or really find the time to do it. My suggestion is to meet with him at a public venue, such as a restaurant and bring along a trusted girlfriend preferably someone he knows (personal experience speaking on this one), and let him know you are bringing a friend. If possible do this before the party to help you determine if you two would end up being "fire and ice" at the party. I'm giving you this advice based on my 64 years of life experiences, and you should take it with with a grain of salt and use it if you can. Because in the end Keepsunshiny, the decision can only be yours and yours alone! I hope I've at least given you some fat to chew on. Oh, and by the way let me wish you a Happy 21ST Birthday! Peace
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