He knows, don't correct him, your husband is his dad now, and I am sure he is proud to be so, certainly your son will feel more comfortable calling him dad.
My granddaughter calls my son dad, although he is not her biological daughter, and me granddad. At xmas she recognises she has an absent dad when he sends a card and cash, but he no longer bothers to see her!
i think kids understand alot more than we give them credit for.
i would encourage your son to call the man who has been there, daddy, as this is what he has been... his father he can call Joe... (or whatever his name happens to be.) just my own humble opinion... *smiles*
you're very welcome. ;)
No! He's only 5 for cryin out loud.
He knows. Your faith in your son's ability to understand who is real "father" is, is not misplaced. That is to say that obviously your son realizes that your husband has filled the role his biological father bowed out of, and he has decided to acknowledge this fact on his own without your prompting - which is wonderful and a sign that your son is a blessed and very loved, very perceptive young boy. God bless your family.
It is healthy that you are letting the boy be himself. The adjustment process is perfectly ordinary and predictable. The attributions made by mother are a major mistake and potential problem, as she describes his mind in adult, not childhood, terms.
I think his real dad should have put in more time . if he loses contact and interaction with his son while he is young he sure as hell wont get it back when his son is older . Men can be so immature and short sighted . Years from now your EX will regret not being there . Well at least your son does have a male figure in his life and it seems there is harmony in the home . Everything is going to be alright
I think kids are really smart and perceptive, and your son understands what it means to be a father - someone who is there for him, loves him, takes care of him, shows interest in his life.
Yes, I think it was good that you left your smart young son to have his own opinion. He has opened the door to you and he talking more about it now.
5 year olds are very smart, and yes, he knows the truth.
Best to you both.
That sounds like he's using someone else's words. You need to open that door to his real father quickly.
I know what you mean. I closed the door to my dad a long time ago. What I'm saying is that someone is telling him that you husband is his dad. They're saying that other guy shouldn't be considered. He's using someone else's words.
I think you need to have a conversation with both your ex and your husband about this, separately of course. Your ex should know that his son feels this way, and be given a chance to an effort. Also your husband should be given the choice about whether or not he wants to be involved in this way in your son's life.
*to make an effort
I think your son's very lucky to have you and your husband to love him.
To me it looks like, it is not about your 'son', 'daddy' or 'step daddy'. It is you who is badly messed up. You should go to a therapist.
It is obvious from your details.
Don't listen to that. You did everything right. I don't know if your son made an intentional choice but he's just doing what feels right to him. He does have two daddies. If he wants to call the one that values him enough to stick around "Daddy" he should be free to do so.
Five years old is pretty young. I don't know.
Don't push him. Let him make his own choice.
Stay out of it. Let things happen naturally.
You started, you already opened that door, fine, now correct the mistake by letting him know that he only has one dad, then go on with your life.