I try to figure out why I have too many acquaintances and not enough friends... READ
7 Answers to "I try to figure out why I have too many acquaintances and not enough friends... READ"
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Sometimes you have to let your guard down and get to know others and see what special traits and qualities they have. I find there is goodness in almost everyone. Lol
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You think positively. I dig that. Thanks for sharing.
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they want sex or something else from me. if i say no im a horrible person. so for a long time i couldent say no. but i can now. and i dont get used, i wont tolerate it.
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Maybe you are afraid of being hurt. In the past someone you trusted mislead you or hurt you and so maybe having so many acquaintances is easier than having that one true friend because there is less of a chance for you to get hurt.
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I actually wish I had more "friends" than "acquaintances." I want people to try and get to know me... to make an effort to hang out.... they just don't. I have been told I am too quiet..... serious.... I'm thinking don't express myself enough to make people feel comfortable around me. Instead I'm too intimidating or don't give enough off to want them to give effort into getting to know me.
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Story.of.my.life. What worked for me was finding that one person who I call my "security blanket". When i go to a party or something I always have them by my side that way i'm not shy. Remember shyness can come off as thinking you are better than everyone else. People won't make an effort to get to know you unless you get to know them :)
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Personality! and if they seem like okay people and not creepyish kinda people >,<
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Sounds about right.
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a lot of people find me weird.
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"Weird" is not always bad.
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It comes naturally. if you wanna actively pursue a friendship, its gonna take a bit more work. Its totally doable though.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by englishsteve 1 Jun 22nd, 2012 at 2:12AM
I reckon a little goodwill is enough to sustain a horde of acqaintances but we need to see something of ourselves in another person to become friends. Shared interests, enthusiasms and above all a shared sense of humour seem to be the big building blocks. So I think the size of their circle of friends or wether they are (look?) attractive aren't the most important credentials - it goes deeper than that and it can take time to get there...I have some very good friends who I reacted against quite strongly when I first met them:)
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