Wait til you are older...you are still a kid yourself.
Go in together on a goldfish. You can flush those when they stop being fun.
Are you mature enough for all of the reasonability of raising a child
If the guy is worth having a child with or by but you are afraid to say things to him because you are afraid of his reaction YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVING A CHILD WITH HIM. Just think about all the uncomfortable things that parents deal with and have to talk about. Did your doctor tell you your eggs are drying up or something? Wait for a man to put a ring on it and provide you and a child with some security girl. What's the rush? Sad for you.
Let's pretend you do have a child with your boyfriend. Are you going to want to deal with a screaming infant at 2 in the morning the night before your final exam? How are you going to provide healthcare, food, and daycare for this child? Do you have the financial means to provide everything that he/she needs? What will your parents (and his parents) think, and how will they deal with this? Are you going to need to drop out of high school and/or forgo college to raise this child? Are you willing to forgo dates, nights out with friends, and a social life to raise this child when you can't get a babysitter? Think about the kind of commitment that raising a child takes before you decide that you want one. Ask your mother about the sacrifices she made to raise her children. I think you're putting the cart before the horse.
Oh boy! A baby! Its even cuter than a puppy! AWWWWWW. Neat. Maybe you can get another one and add to the collection, show em off to all your friends.
Why dont you ******* wait. Theres enough breeders already overpopulating the planet.
Really? You mistook tryng to talk sense into you as abuse.
Do not breed.
Please...don't make any babies until you have a house to put them in. Babies are very expensive and you cannot "put them back" once you had them...
Give it ten years then add 4 more and you will be close to a good age to want a baby go live your life first you will be sorry if you dont
yeah, I would worry about a lot more than that! Why would you want to give up your youth so early?
I didn't say a life, I said youth. you have no idea what kind sacrifice you will be making. At your age the chance of you staying with your boyfriend after having a kid is slim to none. Wait until you are married, have gone to college or have a job and can support two people without help. If you don't want a life then don't have a baby because it will be a life. It will be nonstop living for you after a baby and it won't be easy.
don't need to
Well you pretty much put it out there. That right there shows that you are not ready to be anyone's parent. I don't need to know your situation because i know that you are not an adult. Do what you want, but most of the people here agree that it is not a smart choice. If you can't see that it is unreasonable to have a child at your age then be a stubborn teenager. You know everything right? Your answers show your immaturity. You ask why to everyone that has made a valid point. I wish you luck because you will need it.
His reaction will most likely be negative. You're fairly young, you know.
If he said that, then why are you nervous about also wanting one?
Don't worry about the bad reputation that comes with the territory; worry more about how that baby's life will be if you two do decide you're going through with this.
I'm sorry, but a child needs a mother who can fully support herself plus the child. At your age, I highly doubt that's the case. Wait until you are capable of your own housing and have a steady career. It's selfish to bring a child into the world if you aren't sure you can actually take care of it to the full potential.
Also, I think you need to find out the real reason you want a child. Maybe it's the raging hormones of just finishing up puberty. Maybe it's for attention. Maybe it's to try to bring you and your boyfriend or your family closer together. That is NOT an acceptable reason, whether you will admit it or not. Having a baby won't "fix" anything, or make life easier. Having a child is making a life for a person. Do you want to USE this person for your own selfish reasons?
I strongly suggest you look into your motives for this desire, AND look at the future you would have to offer for a child. Yeah, might not be the best idea.
Yeah and I'm talking about you. Because if it doesn't work out with you two, you will end up with the child. And if you're so determined that it will work out, then why aren't you already married?
He's gotta put into raising the child too, so he might as well show that dedication my marrying you.
Is that what he says to get sex, or does he mean it? Because if he means it, he should do that.
I'm sorry honey, but there are men who pretend to want to get married because younger girls will be naive and believe it, and sleep with them without him ever being able to ask.
But that's besides the point. You need to think about your motives for wanting a child with him.
I would just talk to him. Its never wrong to say how you feel inside. That way you get a chance to share you, and what you want in your life. And nothing that you want is wrong. Its just what you want and hope for. You can even say that you are worried about his reaction to him. That ok too and it will explain why you are nervous. Good luck :)
np hope it helped. :)
don't tell him anyting until you're pregnant...
it's wrong but it works... what do you prefer? a moral solution that doesn't work or an 'immoral' solution that works... 'nobody will ask the winners if they were right' Adolf Hitler
Hitler's been dead since 1945... I'm afraid this is going to be really difficult...