I want to know is there a difference between getting spanked on the underwear or bare bum in pain.

Slapping a bare butt stings the most and is most likely to cause redness. You'll notice that your hand will sting too, so the feeling is shared although a child's butt is more sensitive than an adult's hand so it hurts them more than it hurts you. However, the act of hitting your own child will cause more emotional pain to you than it will to the child. It's common for a parent to say to the child; "this hurts me more than it hurts you." How hard you hit and how you cup your hand will have an effect on how much pain it causes too. Cup it to follow the butt's curve and that will hurt like the dickens!

Each layer of insulation you add (underwear, clothing, gloves, mittens, etc.) between your hand and the target butt reduces the pain and chance of causing redness. Too many layers turns out to do nothing more than produce a muffled thump with no pain and no redness. At that point there's no point in spanking them because it's effect will be naught.

My dad used a leather belt on our bare fannies when we were teens, so that hurt a heck of a lot more. But after we hit a certain age, we simply stopped screaming and took the pain in stride. That's when my dad stopped hitting us. It was no longer useful to do so.

Having said all that, I still wonder if it makes sense to spank a child. I was spanked so I think nothing of it. But I think about spanking my child when he makes me angry, and that may be because I was spanked as a child. If my parents used a different method, would I still be thinking about spanking my child rather than using some other method? Hmm.

It really depends on what you are wearing. Most male clothes are thick enough that you can notice the difference. Having been spanked wearing thin nylon panties, I would say that there is no difference.

But if you are punishing someone, it really should be done on the bare so you can see how much damage you are inflicting. After all, we do not want to cause permanent injury.

I don't understand why a bare bum spanking isn't considered assault

I was fairly bare bottom spank growing up. Yes, bare bottom spanking stings more also longer. Yes, a person remembers their bare bottom spankings longer,too! I tend to think, a bare bottom spanking offers the parent to visually check the hinney their smacking thus preventing bruising; not preventing reddness.

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. Most of my spankings were on the bare hiney - usually by my mom with a fly swatter, ruler or hairbrush.

i have experienced that mostly from my father a few from my mother and once after 10 years old from my father i called him a terrible name and got smacked worse in the face that time up to 25 smacks hard it hurt bad and i was told to never disrespect grown ups again their repect from me was mandatory i owed it to them but desserved none back as i was considered very low on the family social scale so besides that i got emotional and verbal spankings too

bare skin spankings usually leave welts, which means the pain last a long time. obviously that is more painful,and shouldn't be done. the issue isn't pain, or shouldn't be, it is discipline.

i agree with those who stated it is also much more emotional if bare skin. the purpose again is discipline, not humiliation.

always spank with clothing on.

Yes, in addition, a parent can also judge when to stop!

i never gave my kids a spanking i made them stand in the corner for 5 minutes then as they got older the time they had to spend in the corner went up but they are all good kids with kids of their own,but with me i always got spanked on my bare bottom my step dads and my real dad said it was to teach me a lesson but aftefr awhile i started to like being spanked so they stopped doing it now i have a friend who makes me take down my levis and he gives a good spanking every week.

I have no idea, I was never spanked as a child and was only smacked twice - and I grew up into a law abiding citizen with no hang ups and problems. Without kicking off a debate I'd say I don't believe in spanking etc as solving anything. Ok' maybe a lot of people do, but those are my views.