I want to know what the guys think about this...?

Elegy, it is very difficult to learn about these things today because it requires generalizations and people are taught not to believe in them. So, if I were to say, "women blah blah..." there would be a cackle of angry hens telling me I'm a misogynist and 'not all women....blah blah blah'. To me, it's quite ridiculous the way people are because I feel that common sense, in most situations, should make clear that everytime people use a collective noun or personal pronoun they don't literally believe that each and every one of the things they are talking about fit the description in question. Having said that, I think there is some truth to what you've pondered. One, I think that, on average, men do not get all sappy like women do. Two, I think that men express love differently so you might now always pick up the cues. Three, I think that men are conditioned BY WOMEN to not show too much emotion and therefore the outward expressions are dampened and thus the situation looks more extreme to you than it acutally is (all women say they want men to emote more but when we see who gets laid we know better). Finally, I believe that, aside from reproduction and sex organs, if we really studied the bodies, minds, moods, behaviors, etc.. of individual people we would see there is a continuum rather than a dichotomy. There are men with chick hips and gynecomastia that like cooperation at all costs and like domestic things; there are women with narrow hips and low body fat that like taking risks and competition. Okay, that was too long. Basically, I think that you are right in the sense that is the "trend".

Not true. I'm a guy who is very emotional, very romantic and very capable of showing love and affection. In fact, I always joke around and say that I should have been a woman. lol (I guess that sort of confirms your stereotype) No, I'm not gay! My wife on the other hand, seems to be the one who is emotionless. So, I guess it's just a matter of reciprocation in most cases. When that 'special' connection just isn't there for you, it leaves you feeling empty and confused about judgment based on gender and emotion. So don't be duped, men are very loving, you just need to find the right one for YOU. As I said, my wife is not emotional or very good at showing love, maybe it's just my circumstances, but it doesn't mean I think all women are like that.

It sounds like you need to hang out with guys from a different source. True lots of men fit this description, but believe it or not, not all do.

As a female all I'll say is, I don't think the fine specimen for breeding enters into their thought process; more like a fine receptacle for specimen?

it varies. I think i am fairly emotional for a male and deeply love my mate, to a point where i have lost "Control/balance" and i am the one who
loves" more.

I think both men and women are capable of deep love and connections. just got to find the one you connect with.

When you take a group of people and teach them from childhood that they have to be tough and live by the law of the jungle etc. You get an army of sociopaths. That mentality has ruined more mens lives than any thing. There just aren't that many men arround who didn't get screwed up by it. Times are improving though. The baby boom generation is dieing out fast and the ww2 generation are almost all dead now. gen x and gen y are doing a much better job. The feminist movement has been an immeasurable help in improving the lives of women. We now have more women that act like adults and less girly girls that want their daddy to "protect" them and we have more healthy men who can think and have their faculty's working right.

I think there is truth to it. I know that there are things in my life that I handle well because I don't let emotion get in the way. Thats not to say I don't have feelings, but I don't let them get in the way of tough choices.

From a female perspective I think it is not true. Men have feelings like the rest of us, however I think they have been told somewhere along the line they can't show them. So they keep them to themselves making it appear as if they are emotionless...when in fact the opposite is true...the men in my life all have feelings, they can be hurt just as much as mine can be and they love just as much as I do. I think it also depends on the man as to how much they share this part of themselves. And there are many who freely do.

It's not my experience ... the men in my life have almost all been capable of softness and emotion ... and have loved as deeply and with as much commitment as I have ... there will always be exceptions of course and you are also dealing with trends and media image ... but personally I don't associate with followers of media trends ...

I personally thank you are dealin with the wrong types of men. I have had very carin and lovin men in my life. Very capable of showin love and emotions. I thank most men feel deeply for their loved ones, and are not afraid to show it. I guess you can have the exception to the rule.

its unfortunate that these are the men you have met. I admit there are a lot of scum buckets out there and expecially in your age group. Take heart and know that not all men are like that. There is good caring men out there. Its unfortunate that many don't show that and don't relize that they should intil later in life. The older we men get the more we realize we can't be all macho all the time.
It is true men cannot love like woman, otherwise we would be woman. A man and a woman see love differently and are going to express it differently and just cause we can't get all wishy washy about something doesn't mean we don't care. some of us just nee a little more understanding just as some of you women need a lot of understanding.
its the difference between men and women.