If I was you I would get a hold of the local office for the aging! Is your gma mentally with it? If not If I was you I would try to get power of attorney for her that way you can take care of her! Also get a living will! That way family members can't argue that you did something wrong! Good luck to you &God Bless You For caring for your gma!
Aww ya have a great heart i wish i was ur man.. well some people just see family as a easy ride theres not alot you can do except just ride it out n hope that people see it for wat it is and if not then atleast u can hold your head high. Gl flower
Not a long story and by no means unique (I'm sorry to say).
If you can, more out (if you have already, good). Some times "tough love needs to be practiced on adults (chronological adults). You need to spend less time, NOT more time with your gma and you both can and should tell her, you feel under appreciated and that is the reason you are moving out and spending less time. You can still be the dutiful granddaughter and visit occasionally, but being there full time and spending all your free time there will not buy you any sympathy from anyone.
To answer your question, you are not in the wrong. You should and must continue with your own life!
The fact that the friend gets a few dollars and you don't is a
non-starter", you are family and shouldn't expect to be paid. I'm glad you do not live there anymore. I would suggest that you find something else to do on the occasional Friday. You don't live there, and when you DO go there, if should be for visitation purposes only. Think of yourself as a guest. If you eat something, leave the dish, glass or mess. You're there solely for the purpose of visitation, nothing else. Spend an hour or two with your gma. If she ignores you, tell her politely that you doidn't realize she was too busy for a visit and you will try to visit again next week...and then leave. I know it will be hard and probably go against what you believe is right, but nothing will ever change if you don't take some positive action. good luck!
You are for including them in your life.
Oops. Obviously your grandmother puts up with more greed than she should. Maybe it's time to find someone who appreciates you or at least protect yourself.
Exactly. This is why I had to leave mine. Greed is self indulgence at the expense of others. Your family uses you and has no intention of supporting you. They are a black hole draining you on the false pretense it's okay to use you because you are related to them through DNA.
Your grandmother made the brood. She only reaps what she harvested.
Then why is she surrounding herself with a den of thieves?
Well, there was a time she had options and chose poorly. If you are willing to suffer at the hands of your family until her death, so be it.
Lots of bad past too. At least you are learning from it, even if the lesson is a negative one.