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If a friend tells you they are offended by who you are as an overall individual, is that person honestly a friend?

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12 Answers to "If a friend tells you they are offended by who you are as an overall individual, is that person honestly a friend?"

  1. adventureolive - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by adventureolive May 25th, 2012 at 9:48AM

    What the heck did you do to offend her so much?

    She's not a friend. Friendships are based on mutual respect, and even though your friends may do things you disagree with, you still support them.

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  2. BeautyOfSuffering - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by BeautyOfSuffering May 25th, 2012 at 9:41AM

    Definitely not. Real friends accept who you are and if they can't accept you, then you would be much better off without them.

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  3. dillingermaster - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by dillingermaster May 25th, 2012 at 9:37AM

    I would say yes. I like my friends to have honesty in the face of adversity. I may not like what they say to me, but the fact that they speak the truth gives them a lot of credibility and integrity in my eyes.

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  4. HampshireHaystack - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by HampshireHaystack May 25th, 2012 at 9:36AM

    There are, to my mind, two ways of looking at this :

    1. they are trying to deliberately upset you. They are no friend. Ditch them.

    2. they are trying to help you become more acceptable, to themselves and others. You may not even realise that certain aspects of your behaviour is offensive and they are trying to have you realise this and give you a chance to adjust your behaviour. In this case, they are a true friend - although their advice may hurt your ego !

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  5. Kimmer112065 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Kimmer112065 May 25th, 2012 at 9:32AM

    I've made friends with someone whom i later discover that I'm not really that fond of. At that point I just start to distance myself from them. Even the best of friends can get on each others nerves on occasion. You just have to decide if what you like about them is more important than what you dont like about them.

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  6. Myalee - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Myalee May 25th, 2012 at 9:29AM

    I've never been in your position before but I do know one thing, if that friend ever say that to me then our friendship is over. I will still say hi but that it because once you know how the other person feels, you will question yourself, does that person really hate me that much?

    Whenever I had friends who were not very nice people, I loose touch with them eventually.

    Everyone handle it differently.

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  7. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by bijouxbroussard May 25th, 2012 at 9:24AM

    I wouldn't say so---that's sounds more like the definition of an enemy.

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  8. toistory - 41-45 years old

    Posted by toistory May 25th, 2012 at 9:21AM

    Who cares?

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  9. JoeDiablo - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by JoeDiablo May 25th, 2012 at 9:20AM

    That's when you say "My work here is done."

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  10. Dee1979 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by Dee1979 May 25th, 2012 at 9:20AM

    Not at all-that's when I'd tell that person to f*** off real quickly.

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  11. irdumb - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by irdumb May 25th, 2012 at 9:19AM

    could be.

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  12. PlainMeJustMe - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by PlainMeJustMe May 25th, 2012 at 9:19AM

    Nope Part Of Friendship Is Accepting Who The Other Person Is And They Accepting Who You Are.

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