That is strange to say the least, it is insecurity to to abusive to anyone. I know that if my problem was premature ***********, I would not think sex as disgusting. I think of s e x as beautiful as long as the feelings are mutual. I do not find anything about it disgusting, except the fact that I am not having any!LOL
I concur with the others that he needs a therapist. You cannot help him. Sometimes folks who were raised in hyper religious or puritinacial environments gain incorrect and unhealthy attitudes towards sex which can affect their performance. How old is he? Were his other partners domineering or bitchy? Did he have an inappropraite emotional relationship with an authority figure while young? What were his father's attitudes towards his mother or other women? This is interesting and just leads to more questions about the person.
It could very well make him resentful towards women he sees as sexually available. The problems he has had with his ex wife have ruined his self esteem. He should seek psychological, or even sexual therapy. This Problem might not have been a real problem before his divorce, but may have manifested itself in his mind due to his exwife comments during the divorce. <br />
He may believe he is a short fuse guy but in fact is perfectly normal, depending on his exwifes ability to achieve fulfillment. ie: Her too short may have been HER problem not his. <br />
Have you had a chance to try him out for your self? I mean You could find he lasts JUST the right amount of time. If you find him sexually desirable, tell him that you want to be the judge of his ability and Too hell with what his (insert word here) of an ex wife said.<br />
Boost his ego by telling him how good he is, how you love his abilities. If he (god forbid) shoots early, get him fired up for the next round, treat it like its no big deal. Soon he will realize it is, and he will come back to being a self confidant man again.<br />
Its not the end of the world... he just has to relax and let it happen
Hmmm, to me this is an interesting question. I wonder which problem leads to the other. I'm no doctor, but I always thought Premature *********** was a psychological problem and not a physical problem. So I wonder if the misogyny and needing to be mothered led to the sexual problems or the other way around. Either way, I would probably try to avoid a relationship with this person.