I always take it to mean "don't be like my crazy *** ex"
I guess it means he doesn't want to date women.
I was just teasing. ;)
He wants no attachment. Meet, greet, and go bang-bang and that's about it.
Thats kinda what I was thinking. Just give him what he wants without sharing your dreams, asking questions or having demands of your own.
He means he already has plenty from his wife or girlfriend, and would like to have a female companion that is just friendly and happy to just know him.
Thats possible. Some people just want part time companionship.
It means he tends to get caught up in "drama" and doesn't take responsibility for his share of it.
People use "drama" as a blanket term for any kind of negative interaction. Could be quarrels, could be a lot of other things. Don't like it when he embarrasses you in public? Some guys call that "drama." Some even accuse women of "drama" if she cries because her mother's breast cancer spread to the bone.
Sounds jerky? Sure, but it happens.
What guys who say "no drama" in personals ads are telling you is that their last relationship was messy. They're telling you they have baggage and that they haven't found a positive way to express the desire for a happier relationship.
That said, there *are* people who go from one relationship to another stirring up unnecessary trouble. But if somebody normal dealt with one of those people the normal response would be to put that in the past and seek positive elements in the next romantic partner: the normal person would look for red flags quietly.
You get it. :)
Actual "drama" is frivolous attention-seeking. It's the kid who whines in the grocery store over not getting ice cream. It is *not* the parent who has to balance the budget when the child support payment is late, or who calls the ex to find out why the child was left unattended in an airport for three hours. Those are real problems.
There has been a fad in recent years of tossing around that word in situations where it has no place, just to trivialize and invalidate someone's reactions. I'd steer clear of anyone who uses the term in a personal ad.
I agree, however, no drama often means don't bother me with your feelings or the way that you are a different self than me......that is going to upset me in anyway. I usually see men like this, and find them very shallow human beings, who don't know how to communicate well in an intimate way in relationship, and really want the focus on themselves. There are plenty of narcissistic women too. However, I tend to hear men say this the most and would avoid them like the plague. They can be cold, glib and downright cruel with no remorse in their lack of empathy. There are true drama queens who always need attention because of their insecurities. I am not talking about attention seekers here. I am talking about emotions that we all as human beings. A man who says no drama typically has shallow emotions, and expect you to cope with like and for him. I feel sorry for the women who doubt themselves enough not to know to be very careful when dating these types of men.
Okay you guys (*or ladies I should probably say)...I have read most of the posts on this thread, and I am now going to break it down to the proverbial "Brass Tacks" for you, as I can speak with authority on this subject after having survived two divorces with a couple of extreme Drama Queens, one of which happened quite recently so it is still very fresh in my mind.<br />
I am making this post for the benefit if anyone desiring to have more genuine clarity on the subject, in the interests of helping to guide others to the shoresvof greater peace, sanity and well-being.<br />
Now here's the deal.<br />
First off there is to my knowledge no sane man on earth who wishes his woman to be a sexual robot.<br />
This concept is created and promoted by drama queens.<br />
Being stuck in a feelingless rekationship with a woman who simply spreads her legs or bends over at will might seem humorously intreresting at first thought, but in real life, this is compltely ridiculous, and in factual reality can only have originated in the mind of a drama queen.<br />
What mean really mean when they say "No Drama" is the following list of critical points:<br />
1. No exaggerated and un-necessary scenes, whether in public or in private.<br />
2. No ba<x>seless or unfounded arguments. There is nothing more trying to a good man's patience than a woman who unceasingly argues with him for no good reason or purpose other than to be venting at him.<br />
Many women seem to love doing this, and there are even posts in this thread that clearly indicates that there is obviiously a cross-section of women who actually take pride in having the power to do so.<br />
I will tell you now that this is a losing strategy, and it is a recipe for divorce.<br />
3. No nagging.<br />
Ladies, many of you seem to think that by repeating something you feel is important over and over and over and over without end that it will finally get your point accross to your male counterpart. <br />
Sorry ladies, we men are hopelessly logical, and the only logical thing a man can and will do in this situation is shut you out of his consciousness.<br />
We also don't take you seriously when you nag us, as what you really need to do if you are really serious about gettibg through to us is to sit us down, hold our hands, look us directly in the eyes and KINDLY state your point. <br />
Believe me, if you bring us something in such a sincere and loving way...WE WILL GET YOUR POINT, and even better, we might even actually do something about it.<br />
4. No negativity, hostility or violence in any occasion, under any circumstances, or at any time...period.<br />
Okay, let's say you caught us looking at some other woman's *** while we happen to be holding your hand while walking with you.<br />
The standard response which leads to divorce is to create the typical jealous drama queen scene and start getting uptight at us.<br />
What you should do instead if you really wish to keep your relationship together is immediately put our hand on your ***, look us directly
baggage from the past, or your mate gets involved and causes problems!
Usually it means to never contact them, and that they'll get at you when nobodies around.
I don't know what you mean by "Silo" but, Yeah! your probably right. This question reminds me of a line from "Chris Rocks", "No sex in the champagne room"
"If you've been dating a guy for 4 months and you don't know any of his friends, then your not his girl friend."
He's looking for a free prostitute.
Men in general, including ones in their 30s 40s and 50s who post on dating sites do not look at the type of dating sites they post on. They do it for one reason and one reason only is for no strings attatched s e x.
would seem to suggest he's had his fill of Drama Queens in this life, and respectfully requesting that if the reader envisages they may indeed..be a Drama Queen, just walk on by ? lol
what would life be..without drama vessa ? boring i'd imagine..i bet every one us have had Drama of some kind within our lives ? why even the English Queens werent without Drama ? lol..
Remember Pig Pen from Peanuts. He's Pig Pen and the dust and particles following him is his drama
Pig Pen wouldn't be Pig Pen without all the dust or particles. So I guess drama is inevitable?
yeah- he's protesting too much- the slightest tiff- he'll be all I SAID I CAN'T TAKE DRAMA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
and he can't live with his mother
So you know Harold too
He has absolutely no concept of reality.
It means;<br />
No women with baggage<br />
No unstable women, fix your own life problems because I'm not going to do it for you<br />
No unreasonably jealous types<br />
No loud-mouthed idiots who cause a scene wherever they go
From experience, when a guy says "no drama", it usually means he's just tired of games, so I doubt he'll act like that or that he sees himself like this. If anything, it's like saying "We're all adults, so let's please act like it"
I presume it's a gay man who wants a straight acting gay partner.
Male seeks male.
ouchhhh i'd imagine a lot more pain than drama then ? trading b.i.t.c.h. for b.i.a.t.c.h. ? lol
I think he wants to go straight from "How do you do?" to "Wanna have sex?"
LOL, I am joking. I am so far out of the dating scene, I barely remember what the word means. I have never gone on a dating site; have no idea what anyone means when they say *no drama* What I would mean if I said it, would be NO drugs, alcohol, excess baggage, in the form of an ex who still EXPECTS care and support, no matter what other obligations he has.
Oh, and NO head games.
:) but you still see the dating sites. Not as far removed from the dating scene as I am. BUT when I was 25 years younger, I wasn't so far removed either.
I'll take your word for it. I have no desire to even check it out. This is how you know when you're old. You aren't even browsing.
I remember hormones. I don't miss them. Hahahaha!!
He doesn't like Emmerdale Eastender's or Coronation Street
yes from uk
What I think it means, is that a man wants his cake and eat it too. He doesn't want you to be upset, even if he says or does things that upset you because in his mind anything you feel is petty. He wants to be late and you not getting made he wants to go out with his friends and you had arrangements and you better not get mad because then you are controlling. He wants you available when he wants you for what he wants you for and you should be happy with everything he happens to do.
I take it to mean "Don't question me when I do suspicious things" because that's how it played out with the two men I dated who said "No drama". Confronting them on why they didn't want to remove their dating site profiles when they claimed to be in love with me was met with a lack of willingness to even discuss the matter! "No drama" = Huge Red Flag to me now. Usually these guys are the ones creating the drama! And they don't even know it. Not the brightest crayons in the box.
He probably has enough of his own and doesn't want to add to it. This might also be a red flag that he is selfish and is looking for someone only to contribute to the relationship without ever reciprocating.