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we've been best friends for years, but we are still young. he says he cares about me, and doesn't know any other girls. we're comfortable laying next to each other, but he doesn't necessarily know how to be intimate or if he even wants to be. i asked him about his feelings and we agreed that we'd think about it again in a year or so to see if he feels any differently. is it worth trying?

This one keeps coming up over and over. And I'm not judging, because I've been here. And not so very long ago. Why do humans get stuck on people that dont care for them in return? It's the most frustrating experience, on both parts - giver and receiver.

Some things that I am s-l-o-w-l-y learning, that have helped me:
- it's horrible being with someone you dont love - dont expect someone else to do it for you, because you're ripping the both of you off
- there actually ARE more fish in the sea - we dont see them because we spend all our time longing for someone who doesnt know or care that we exist
- men are generally far slower to tap into how they feel than women are. Accept it. And think about how you'd feel if they were pushing the relationship faster than you felt comfortable with - yuk! Put yourself in there shoes before you expect a great conversation about your future together.

Hope you work it out :)