She wants your money and the security that you represent. <br />
Women aren't capable of love, except perhaps toward their female offspring. Males, even sons, are nothing more than a utility and a source of resources (income, food, etc). If you're not part of the top 2% of men, the men that they ALL want, the only men they want anything to do with before they hit The Wall, then you are resources, nothing more.
Wow that is incredibly cynical.
It's incredibly realistic. I only wish it hadn't taken me the first 33 years of my life and many hours of reading, examining my experiences and self, and comparing what I'd read to what I'd seen and experienced, to figure it out.
OTOH, the last two years have been great, and it's only going to get better.
Common interests, support, friendship, emotional comfort, some sense of adventure and/or a shared goal in life.