you are seriously confused
If females were spreading it more to males they could never come out and say it in public, that's not politically correct
Actually, there is a problem with your hypothesis. You assume that all males contract herpes from females. Perhaps the key to your question is, what if the male rate is higher due to the gay population? (Not knocking gays, just a statistical observation!)
It appears most people are not understanding your question. I do understand it but have no answer.
You sound so confused.
Ask a doctor. Or Google it.
Most women are after the top 20% of men. It's these infected studs that hand out the permanent diseases.
I watch it happen. What I see I have to believe.