I say, tell them you are sorry that they are upset.....even if you are not wrong. It helps pave the way to understand when they ARE ready. I really am at the age when I am less concerned about being right than about repairing the relationship. My goal in life, is to bring about peace. I have already sent 2 messages to people that have hurt me deeply in the past and I offered friendship and understanding and forgiveness.....as I believe life is all about relationships. It doesn't matter how others act....only how I react.