If was in a abusive relationship and could not take my anger out on bloke and did to kids do i deserve to be a mum
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Posted by blingblogbloop Nov 24th, 2011 at 7:31AM
I wouldnt say you dont deserve to be a mom but you need to stand up to the person whos really causing you pain instead of taking it out on defenseless kids because what your doing makes you no different from the person belittling and abusing you!
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Reply by rod1944 Nov 24th, 2011 at 10:10AM
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Posted by gurucarcar Nov 24th, 2011 at 7:07AM
Give yourself a break - guess what you are human. When someone lashes out of you it is easier to lash out to others. It's a pattern and the weaker the victims the better. Moms aren't perfect and there are many who are capable of having babies, but shouldn't. Sounds like you are a good mom since you are willing to say you messed up. Tell your children that - ask for their forgiveness. They'll honor that one day.
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Posted by lalareyna Nov 24th, 2011 at 4:16AM
You obviously feel some remorse for what you are doing, because you know the answer to your question. NO, you shouldn't parent children that you are knowingly abusing, just because you don't have the courage to stand up to the person abusing you. It is not only unfair, it's disgusting and it's wrong. Imagine how you feel being abused by someone else.....now imagine what they feel being abused by the one person who should ALWAYS protect them. You are a grown woman and you can walk out any day that you choose. They have no choice but to live with you and take your abuse. Do you think it's right? NO, because you wouldn't be asking this question if you did. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and feel sorry for what you're putting your kids through. Love yourself and them enough to leave, or give them to a family member where they will be safe. They don't deserve what you're doing and there are NO EXCUSES!!!
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Posted by fufu2011 Nov 24th, 2011 at 3:49AM
firstly, especially if the kids look like him, this is probably the easiest way to express your hurt. but its not fair to them. im about to have a baby with a bastard. my way of coping is crying and doin this some more. i will move on one day. its no easy to let go, but if you love yourself, and the kids, you will find the courage.
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Posted by certifiable Nov 24th, 2011 at 3:33AM
The good thing is that you acknowledge what you're doing and you know it's wrong . Remember the kids are already suffering due to your abusive relationship and they need someone they can trust , you need to stop taking it out on them and be that person .
Think about how your partner makes you feel , well you're making your kids feel the same way .
Get some help , seek services out there . All of this will impact greatly on your kids and once you become a mum they become your top priority .
You know all this is wrong so be the mum your kids deserve .It really doesn't matter if you deserve to be a mum as you're already there . The fact that this is bothering you shows you do care .
Good luck .
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Posted by dx2dsquared Nov 24th, 2011 at 3:14AM
Youre just in a really bad situation, Im sure youre a good mum, you need to get out of the abusive relationship, nothing good ever comes out of that
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