I think I'd try to keep it to myself for as long as I could, while taking care of the final arrangements.
I would tell to make it easier on them. Yes, easier on THEM. How would you feel if your close friend or relative died suddenly and THEN you found out they had chosen not to share with you that they were suffering from a terminal illness? I would want to know, so I'd let them know.
i agree with you classicality. It would give them time to prepare themselves..to come to terms in some manner with what was about to happen.
I'm not sure i'd probaly tell my best friend and my ex boy friend beacuse they mean the most to me and i care about them most. But then again i don't want them hurting all that time with me... i really don't know...
I would not tell. It would hurt my family. I'd keep them from knowing as long as I could. I see death on a regular basis so I'm ok with it. The final moment takes one breath; then the whole thing is over. I would get my affairs in order. Make arrangements for my cremation & an optional funeral. My brother died of a ganglioneuroma; we all found out way early & I think it made things much more difficult for him.
PS Thank you for your comment about my brother. We didn't grow up together. I was raised as an only child, but I adored him. And you have a wonderful holiday too!
Keep it to myself, because I know what hurt and pain feel like...would it be worse letting the ones I love know so they can worry and hurt for however long, or just pass and let it end from their.
my father kept it to himself...the first time i heard the word "cancer" was when i spoke to his surgeon...i totally freaked and felt really hurt..but in hindsight he's a very private man..his reasoning behind his decison was..what's the big deal.
i'd never cut the people i loved out of something so major.
maybe ..but how the hell would that have helped if he died...i would have had even more pain...not finalizing things, not having the chance to say goodbye..that in itself is another pain altogether. Been there done that.
R u kidding? Why would i keep it to myself ? I' d like give in the paper and enjoy all the attention, gifts, treats... I'd live my time of 20 yrs in 1 day... N wouldn't regret dying early at all
I would tell.
I'd pull that card all the way till the end!
It's known in certain terms as a card meaning a free ticket for sympathy or favors..not that it is a descent thing one does however.....