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If you spent alot of time alone b/c your spouse traveled to spend time with his family often, how would you feel?

Have to work (in the south) while he plays (up north)! Don't want to go for 3 months every flippin' summer! He works hard during the rest of the year to go, it just sux spending so much time alone. I get to take care of everything else while he's gone.

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  1. garvan - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by garvan Feb 6th, 2011 at 8:21PM

    Lousey I guess.

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  2. secretsarah98 - 41-45 years old

    Posted by secretsarah98 Feb 6th, 2011 at 8:21PM

    That would depend 'why' he had to spend so much time with his family. If it was because someone is sick or not well that is understandable. You are also family since he married you, and should be the #1 priority. If my spouse spent more than normal amounts of his time with family I would probably feel left out and lonely. I believe spouses should spend some time apart but if his visits are more often then the time he spends at home. I would be asking him to consider spending more time at home or at least include me in the visits once in awhile.

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  3. Kilyra - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Kilyra Feb 6th, 2011 at 8:20PM

    First off, all the people saying go with him, that's not exactly feasible for 3 months out of the year. Pretty hard to keep down most jobs that way!

    I would have a hard time dealing with that, like someone said, unless there were health issues or something serious he's dealing with back home. But otherwise it would feel like being abandoned for 1/4 of each year.

    EDIT: You have an amazing amount of patience. The only way I could accept that in a marriage if it was for work (I grew up near the oil patch and saw that lifestyle a lot). But just because? It really would be hard to feel attached to someone if they can ditch me for 3 months out of the year like that...

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  4. wvgirl70 - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by wvgirl70 Feb 6th, 2011 at 6:00PM

    Thank you Kilyra! Sometimes you just need to see it to feel justified. I've been married for 21yrs and this has been an ongoing thing. After turning 40 last year, I've so decided I've had enough. There's just no emotional attachment for me. He doesn't want to quit the marriage, but I'm thinking "What marriage"? He's just got someone waiting on him all the time. Yes! 2 kids, but they're 18 and 15.

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  5. NowSeekingHookups - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by NowSeekingHookups Feb 7th, 2011 at 10:25AM

    I had to do that in my first marriage. She was an Active Duty Air Force Officer. But I knew that going in. We were both on active duty when we met. Made for some lonely times but the reunions sure were nice. HUBBA..HUBBA...LOL

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  6. SummerWind18 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by SummerWind18 Feb 6th, 2011 at 5:35PM

    like tagging along

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