only if the abuse short-circuits your ability to empathize. people who've suffered abuse tend to either vow never to repeat it and study up on how to avoid it and raise children right, or they avoid having children at all, or they become abusers because they've failed to process the lessons of their past and are stuck trying to reclaim their own power by taking on the role of the abuser. I'd like to think that most end up in the first two categories, but I don't really know...
I'm the one who avoids relationships...
I just know that I won't make a good parent...so I'll just mind my own life.
Beside I fear men so...yeah
You're young enough that you really don't know what the future will hold for you in that department. In my own case, I was over 40 before I had a kid. I also feared that I wouldn't make a good parent, yet now people marvel at the closeness of my relationship with my daughter. I slip once in awhile and yell or overreact, but I've never struck her, and for the most part I'm the dad I wish I'd had...
I broke the cycle
me too :D
I know from my experience that it happens in many cases<br />
it depends on the ability of self-reflection and the mental stability in general<br />
I know a person who acted the same way like her mother, but after some years she noticed what she'd done to her children and changed her behaviour
from your experience? then your experience is limited. the majority are horrified at what happened to them.... and would NEVER inflict that horror upon another. respect, from robbie
of course my expeience is limited;-D
but I definitely know some people who acted nearly the same way like their parents
if all people could controle their behaviour, there were no criminals, no mental sick people, no addicts...
No. I was abused by my parents, and I will never do the same thing to my children, because I don't want them damaged and I would never inflict harm on a child. You don't have to beat your kids or call them names to discipline. Take a toy away, take away TV priviledges, something else. If you're smart enough, you break the cycle yourself.
My father and step-mother were beyond abusive both physically and mentally. I WILL NEVER EVER EVER HURT MY DAUGHTER THAT WAY OR IN ANY OTHER WAY INTENTIONALLY, NOT EVER!!!!!!!!!
No. A million times over.
Means that you never grew up.
no I don't abuse my kid and I suffered through horrible abuse
Yes, not abuse as in being beaten, but,my exwife said she heard her parents fighting alot of the time. She brought this into our marriage
I Hate to think so, but I feel it does. I am so Determined Not to Abuse my child, (I say "Child" because I'd Adopt a baby girl as my Niece if not my daughter,) Physically, Mentally, or Especially Emotionally-as That does the most Damage seeing as it's to the Heart/Spirit.
NO, IT IS NOT THE DETERMIANATION. It depends ont he abuse, the age and other such, but to say that I will abuse my child because a gang of perverts destroyed me is as far from the truth as good from evil.
No, but it is a fact that many people who do abuse were themselves abused at one time or another.
It will certainly determine that u will have 2 make a constant effort not 2.
no no no no no <br />
............................... N O !<br />
that is a lie.<br />
some abusers have been themselves abused. that is different.<br />
if you or someone you know fears becoming an abuser.... there is help<br />
you only have to ask for it.<br />
everyone has the choice NOT to be an abuser.<br />
with respect, from robbie
No. But the chances are increased.
YES.. cause it a psychological disease that is contagious.
I have heard that. It is one reason why I decided to never have children.<br />
I was violently abused, not sexually. I remember looking at my father one day when I was very young and thinking if that's what it means to be a father I never want to be one.<br />
And after being around my parents' miserable marriage for 18 years I'm not surprised I've never married.
Some. Times It happens but mostly it don't thank god
No, sometimes it can mean you might, particularly if you see nothing wrong with the way you were raised and dont really realise it was abuse.<br />
With awareness comes freedom ususally. We are not all condoned to repeat the sins of the past.