If your 5 year old son said to you, "I will kill you", twice in one day, what would you do?
39 Answers to "If your 5 year old son said to you, "I will kill you", twice in one day, what would you do?"
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Revise my parenting
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Yes! To what? Less affection? Less super-comfy-hugs and kisses? Less playing, swimming, t-ball, reading, museums (he loves museums so it's not punishment), positive behavioral support? Should I give him toy guns, swords, etc.? What???
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I meant it as a joke but since you asked... Start off by making sure he understands that is a mean thing to say to a person and try to get him to understand the difference between what is and isn't acceptable.
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Sleep with one eye open...
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I said that all the time to my friends in the army!
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; )
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I'm curious what kind of cartoons does he typically watch and is he with you when you watch tv or a movie?
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He watches Caillou (drives me crazy), Berenstein Bears, he has seen Cars and Cars 2. We aren't tv, movie people. He likes museums, not the fun kid ones, but the boring grown-up ones. He is into politics. That's it! Politics!
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I think you just got a starting point with the politics thing. I think you should maybe cut his politics-time a bit though and see if it makes a difference. Politics=Rivalry and that can't be good for a little child to hear. That's just my opinion.
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Ask him if he knows what it means "to kill someone" and see what his answer is, and then tell him what it means to you when he says it. But where to go from here really depends on two things... 1. Why he is saying it (is he angry? does he think its cute? is he just parroting something he heard someone else say?) and 2. his current maturity level (can you explain to him that terroristic threats (i.e. threatening to hurt someone, if it is possible that you could do what you say, even if you don't actually do it) are still punishable; and 3. Your overall perspective on life... hard to tell you child that God doesn't like it when we think and talk like that if you don't believe in God...
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I did ask if he understood what he was saying. He defined it perfectly and told me how he was going to kill me. He said he was angry. He understands that if he threatens to kill the president but doesn't kill him, he still goes to prison. I'm not very religious but he has questions about God. I really don't know God and Jesus "stuff". I have a kid bible and read stories to him. I never knew Adam had a wife when he was with Eve. My son asked many questions about that!!!!
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If he was angry, it might help to explain to him that sometimes you get angry at him... but that even when you are most angry (when he broke something you loved, or when he hurt you by wanting to kill you) you still loved him very much and that anger passes, but love endures. Tell him that sometimes we do things and we later regret those things... and sometimes we can tell someone we are sorry, and they forgive us, and everything will be okay... but killing someone is forever, and no matter how sorry we are, it will not bring them back. Ask him what kinds of things might make him feel better when he is angry and come up with a plan of action. Remind him of times when he was angry before, but then how he felt happy afterwards. As for religion, If there is a church near, even if you do not go... he can go, but I wouldn't recommend that...I think its important to know what message the church is putting out there before turning them lose on your kids. So again, you have to deal with your morals, while your child is developing his. I think it is pretty safe when you talk about religion to say that many things about God - and religion - remain a mystery... even to people who have studied it for years and years and years... but there are somethings that most religions agree on and that is that God loves us, and wants us to love one another. That we should talk to God (pray) for direction in our lives.... whatever it is you believe, or do not believe... The older your children get, the more things you are going to have to say I don't really know the answer to that one... lets find out together. Perhaps you will develop a joy of learning and that will be something good and constructive you can do together! At any rate, it sounds like he has a good enough grasp on the situation and on what he is saying that you can let him know that is unacceptable to say he wants to or that he will kill someone and he has to find another method of expressing himself and stick to your guns (is that an appropriate thing to say here?)...and at the very least, he must be removed to isolation until he feels more in control of his emotions... send him to his room for half hour and talk again... deny him the privilge of playing with other children for the afternoon because you are afraid he might want to kill them too.... IDK... but I am sure you will figure it out. Definitely not something he should be allowed to continue saying until he outgrows it though...
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He is getting this from someone or something- a friend, schoolyard, a game, something. You cannot control his environment 24/7...and if you are, no wonder he wants to kill you
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Well that depends, What kind of media is he exposed too? or other adults? maybe he overheard it said somewhere? I would call his doctor.
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kill him first
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Sleep with one eye open ; )
Or, being serious don't worry about it, he has obviously picked the phrase from somewhere and knows the shock value of it, of the reaction he is getting.
Ask him why?
Ask him what he would do if you weren't there for him.
Tell him you love him.
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I said that to my dad one time... Just before I went to the hospital for having that screwdriver removed from my ***.
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"time out " and we would have a chat to understand that that is something that is serious...and shouldn't be said by children nor adults...allow him to know if mommy goes away she can never come back.....hope this helps.....HUGS, KIC
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hes just angry and anxious, ask him whats wrong
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Take him somewhere for obedience training.
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Knock them baby teeth out.
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Hmmm, I don't think a physical attack will address his "kill" phase. I hope it is a phase!!!
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certainly not let him watch halloween. that will give him some ideas, please tell me his name isnt michael
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Not Michael. He got scared from a Berenstein Bears cartoon!!!
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Put a bar of SOAP in his mouth !
Being a Parent is tough but parents can't be politically correct raising good kids.Like (1)
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at that age....you have to remeber...they parrot everythiung they hear....he could have heard that on the street, on tv, who knows where.....he saw that it got a "BIG" reaction...and Im sure.....he enjoyed it....just a theory....but im sure this is the case
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I would really worry obviously something not right, what has made him think these words. He's just a child something his worrying him. The only thing to do I's ask him out right, ask his friends or schoolmate. Good luck i wish u well, Kbou xxxxx
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Well, daisy, considering what you said in your posting about taking the personality disorder test, he may be reacting normally for a 5-year-old to Mommie's being "mean" rather than thinking, "Gee, Mommie has mental issues requiring medication. I must understand her."
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Ask him where did he learn that phrase & does he have any idea of what it means. He's been exposed to politics already? Then likely some footage he saw on TV made an impact on him. Talk it over with him.
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Posted by FrogmansHeart Jul 9th, 2012 at 9:33AM
Role Play....He'll catch on real quick how things would be soooo different if you were dead.
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Reply by daisyflowrs Jul 9th, 2012 at 9:38AM
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