There are times you have to "let" them discover the wrong path on their own otherwise they never learn from life's experience's. I'd always be there at the end of the path to help guide them afterwards
Unfortunately, this has happened to my family already. We had to walk away from our eldest daughter and her disasterous decisions that she was making. You can only baill someone out so many times, before you realize that they just do not get it....
It still hurts, an she is still in a ownward spiral, but I can no longer be a prt of her decision making or a prt of her lifestyle anymore. I love her from a distance and pry for her every day.
Just be there when they need you, that's all you can do, a bit of a no win situation until they grow up and settle down.
No I would usually give them a good whipping if they were physically violent or ground them for any other misbehavior.
if they're at the point they wouldn't allow you to "guide them" you may be already too late in trying to "guide them." The fact that you're refering to the child as "it" already says a lot. They're their own person now. If they're under your roof and you still have some control, try best to set rules. If not, then let them be...for not much you can do but to wait until they reach out for your help.
I know that you still loves your child and want to bail him out everytime. But if he's old enough to make decisions to get himself in trouble, he'll have to deal with the consequences. However, you're his mother, so whatever at what time he is faced with "consequences" I think you should listen to your heart. because you don't want to have any regrets as a mother at a later time if certain events in his life could have changed with your involvement or detachment. Hopefully he'll grow out of it without messing up his life too much. But keep hope. I've seen some of my friends that used to be drug dealers, gangsters, drunks in their late teen years change with their conversion to Christianity. I am personally not religious but if it helped them, I guess it was good for them.
I having staying power, I would keep after my child and try to guide them, no matter what.
Nope. Never. Nuh uh. Not on my life.