If your friend says to you: "I have forgiven you, but I won't ever forget what you've done to me." will you believe them
9 Answers to "If your friend says to you: "I have forgiven you, but I won't ever forget what you've done to me." will you believe them"
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I'd tell them "It's a mistake anyone could have made. Get over it and stop being such a drama queen."
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There is an old saying, "People can bury the hatchet, but nobody ever forgets where it is buried."
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That's the whole point I've been trying to make! Nobody forgets where the hatchet is buried.Like (1)
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Then you haven't really buried the hatchet. Also, you can forget. Furthermore, why bring it up ever again if you have forgiven?
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I don't do things to my friends that require their forgiveness.
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Really? Well, good for you. That doesn't answer my question, though. For the sake of the question, put yourself in that position.
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k. i won't believe they forgave me. rarely anyone can forgive, despite what people claim.
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Yes, I think it is an honest answer....one can forgive ones actions however, should that action have caused pain/disappointment, the reality is it will never truly be forgotten. In essence, actions have consequences; saying you're sorry doesnt automatically make everything okie dokie.
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I don't believe you can forgive without forgetting. Just say you haven't forgiven, because forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand. You can't recall harm done without feeling resentment, and what the definition of forgiveness? To let go of all resentment towards. Now tell me, why insist on remembering if you've truly forgiven?
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While I understand your point I do not agree....forgetting and forgiveness are two seperate actions/emotions, yes, on occasion they interlock but
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No I wouldn't believe them. Honestly people don't or can't forgive because they truly cannot forget. Short of a catastrophe and before senility, the mind simply, physically, cannot forget experiences (and any accompanying feelings). Just think about it. How can people forgive if they truly cannot forget?
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I agree that we cannot claim you've forgiven if you haven't forgotten, but if you're still constantly, purposely bringing up the wrong done towards you by someone, then you haven't truly forgiven them.
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I agree. If someone really loves you, you will know it. People that keep throwing stuff up in your face are not friends. If you have to keep proving something to them, they are not your friends. If you question if they are a friend, they are not a friend. You can trust your feelings.
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words can be deceiving it depends on his face and hand shake if there is any but because he won't forget it doesn't mean your not forgiven
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I see you are disillusioned. Lol, I'm kidding, but not really. That's just another way of saying I'm using words to let you know what I've done, but I can't bring myself to forgive you.
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Yeah. I'll stop believing them if they are ever not my friend. If you can't seem to believe what they say then you definitely aren't friends to begin with.
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The reason I asked this question was to make people see just how ridiculous forgiving without forgetting is. Does that mean that you believe every single thing your friend tells you?
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Yes. Every single thing that they tell me. If I find it to be not true later I might confront them about it. I'd still believe everything they say after that. Either I'm really gullible or a great friend. haha
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Yes, I would believe them-at least they are trying. Providing forgiveness is not the same as returning trust.
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I wouldn't. Why continue bringing it up if you've truly forgiven?
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Well, you're question didn't indicate that they were doing so. Maybe they're trying and having a hard time with it. Give them credit for trying and do what you can to make it possible. From what you indicated; you acknowledge that you were initially at fault, so if anyone should carry the burden, it is you.
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Posted by Tara277 Nov 25th, 2012 at 11:47AM
I would believe them unless they always bring it back up in conversation.
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Reply by puremonopoly Nov 25th, 2012 at 11:49AM
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