I'd tell them "It's a mistake anyone could have made. Get over it and stop being such a drama queen."
I would believe them unless they always bring it back up in conversation.
I would bring something back up in conversation as a way to invoke embarrassment for a good joke.
I don't do things to my friends that require their forgiveness.
k. i won't believe they forgave me. rarely anyone can forgive, despite what people claim.
Yes, I think it is an honest answer....one can forgive ones actions however, should that action have caused pain/disappointment, the reality is it will never truly be forgotten. In essence, actions have consequences; saying you're sorry doesnt automatically make everything okie dokie.
While I understand your point I do not agree....forgetting and forgiveness are two seperate actions/emotions, yes, on occasion they interlock but
Okay...I had a temporary techinical foul with my smartphone and it failed to complete the rest of my comment...so I will continue it now. The point is; forgetting and forgiving are 2 seperate emotions/actions, yes they interlock but they are NOT compulsorary for each other to exsist. For instance, my father spanked me when I was little, and while I have never forgotten the moment/experience, I do forgive him for I do understand his reasoning for doing it.
And while it would be a wonderful thing to forgive and therefore automatically forget, our minds are much more complicated than that!. Now, that being said, someone who says they have forgiven yet continuously mention the situation over and over, yes I agree with you, they cannot say they have forgiven nor forgotten, however, I do believe it is depenadant on the individual and their personal growth/evolution of maturity.
No I wouldn't believe them. Honestly people don't or can't forgive because they truly cannot forget. Short of a catastrophe and before senility, the mind simply, physically, cannot forget experiences (and any accompanying feelings). Just think about it. How can people forgive if they truly cannot forget?
I agree. If someone really loves you, you will know it. People that keep throwing stuff up in your face are not friends. If you have to keep proving something to them, they are not your friends. If you question if they are a friend, they are not a friend. You can trust your feelings.
While I understand your point, I do not agree....forgiveness and forgetting are 2 seperate actions/emotions. Yes they can interlock but it is indeed possible to forgive ones actions yet maintain memories of the event. Ie: my dad spanked me, it was painful/ embarassing, but I forgive him yet I have not forgotten having to bend over his lap and being swatted.
To think the human mind is only capable to forgive as along as they also forget is.....well, would be awesome, for life would be much easier but sadly that is not the case.
words can be deceiving it depends on his face and hand shake if there is any but because he won't forget it doesn't mean your not forgiven
Yeah. I'll stop believing them if they are ever not my friend. If you can't seem to believe what they say then you definitely aren't friends to begin with.
Yes. Every single thing that they tell me. If I find it to be not true later I might confront them about it. I'd still believe everything they say after that. Either I'm really gullible or a great friend. haha
The problem with me is once someone is my friend then they aren't ever not my friend. So, I don't see much redundancy in my argument. I guess one can say that I'm slightly confused. 0_o I don't create friendships until I'm certain of a persons character. Then, once someone is my friend, no matter what they say to me, I'm still going to be their friend. It's kind of like I don't really have friends. Rather, all of those that would be considered 'friends' have been upgraded to extended family. You know, the kind you still talk to? That's the kind of friends I like to associate myself with. If I can't consider them my family then I cannot consider them to be my friend. If everyone were a liar then I can see how this would pose a greater problem. However, I'm pretty sure most of my friends aren't pathological liars. And, if they are, I hope that they try their hardest to tell me what truth that they can afford to tell.
Yes, I would believe them-at least they are trying. Providing forgiveness is not the same as returning trust.
Well, you're question didn't indicate that they were doing so. Maybe they're trying and having a hard time with it. Give them credit for trying and do what you can to make it possible. From what you indicated; you acknowledge that you were initially at fault, so if anyone should carry the burden, it is you.
---or deciding in your mind to forgive, and working to resolve the fact in your heart.
One is the mind & that is where the decision was made, now they are just trying to get the heart to follow-this is on you, don't look to put anymore burden on them.
Ahhh, the innocence of youth. Best of luck to you, Grasshopper!