I'm 18..depressed and want to be a mommy...is that so bad.?
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Posted by BarvoDelancy Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:38PM
When we're in a deep depression it's common to fixate on this one idea as the thing that will save us, make everything better, and make the pain go away.
Having a baby isn't a bad idea, but it isn't instant happiness either. Remember that no matter how hard you believe something it doesn't make it true.
Teen pregnancy means you're more likely to end up in poverty. If you come from a rich family that changes things mind you, but only so much. If you just want to get pregnant and don't care about finding someone to raise the child with it means that you will be raising a child on one income with no work skills - so minimum wage. You can see how hard that gets.
This is your body and your choice and I respect that. But if you want to give your baby the best possible life then try to find someone you love first. Be -patient-. You're still a kid and you have a lot of time left. Every year you wait right now is a little bit more you can invest into giving your child the best life possible.
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:52AM
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Posted by motherofzeno Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:35PM
No, It's not bad to desire unconditional love. But you have to remember that love is Selfless, as is being a mother. When you do it to fill a space in your life, you are being selfish. Those are the mothers that end up losing their kids. Being a mom should be something you aspire to, not long for. It's a job, probably the hardest one you could have. If it isn't your passion then you won't be the good mother you hoped to be. Making a conscious choice to have a child should be fueled by the desire to love the child, not the desire for the child to love you.
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:45AM
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Posted by brianlamma Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:29PM
Sounds completely normal to me.
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Posted by cuex Mar 11th, 2013 at 12:03AM
No, that Nice..
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Posted by DGREATUS Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:38PM
you should get your life how you want it first. Figure out what you want to do and if you need a degree for it get it. Get it even if your with a guy that has it all cause if you want to be a mother you have a choice of what kind of mother you can be. If you got your life right and you some how broke up with the father yes you will be sad but you will be strong with great possibilities of being happy again but if you cant take care of yourself and working a job you don't like then not only will you be sad but you will be sad for along time. Don't rush to follow others steps when you create your own and with GOD even your relationship can be great. GOD will let you know if your with the right man that will give you a great and happy life together. I Think you just need to find yourself and make sure you are happy before you can make anyone else happy. Kids grow fast so is is always best to be ready once the child is born. I am a single father raising my son alone.
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:54AM
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Posted by FallenAngelLilith Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:31PM
Look at the bright side, at least you can still have a kid. :(
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:58AM
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Posted by Taniya4429 Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:30PM
Kinda yeah
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Posted by iamabg Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:43PM
absolutely Bad. What are u thinking in you mind. depressed cannot be a reason to ruin you. stop blabbering n make it ur strength. Make ur mind strong. start. let u fail more. so u can learn n win more. If u feel lonely find any orphanage n visit every week. Go, work, be independent. earn n save for urself. May be feel n even enjoy the depression, its not always a bad thing
take some time. Please don say u cant. ask urself cant u ?
"Depression is not something to be proud of, not something to be ashamed of too". GOT IT
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:48AM
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Reply by iamabg Mar 11th, 2013 at 4:06PM
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Posted by Minyaa Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:40PM
You're 18 and still in unstable condition to bear and raise a child. If getting pregnant is just a way to cure your depression, please do re-consider your thoughts for the future of your future baby
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Posted by chaosmagnet Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:33PM
Sincerely, I think you should see a psychologist to talk about this issue..
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:55AM
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Reply by chaosmagnet Mar 11th, 2013 at 2:02AM
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Posted by bohaven Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:32PM
Wanting to be a mommy when you are 18 and depressed.This does not compute.
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Posted by GwydionFrost Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:31PM
It is not bad to want to be a mommy.
It is bad if you think that being a mommy is a cure for your depression, however. No external thing will bring happiness that you cannot find from within yourself.
Or, as the Chinese say, "Happiness is not getting what you want, it is wanting what you get."
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Posted by Bandiroux Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:30PM
some ppl should not be parents - are you not content by being a good aunt ? - dont saddle your life down with some b.astard child of some passing a.sshole that could care less about U.
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 1:59AM
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Posted by SarcasmQueen Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:29PM
Nothing cures depression like pregnancy. Um, no!
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Posted by LovebearxD Mar 10th, 2013 at 11:29PM
Being a mom and depressed at the same time usually doesn't work out :/
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Reply by NicDeLancret Mar 11th, 2013 at 2:01AM
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Reply by LovebearxD Mar 11th, 2013 at 2:03AM
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