Try an experiment, . . .<br />
the next time you see a girl you think is nice, pretty or you want to talk to. . . go and talk to her. It could be at a library, a bus stop, school, a club, the mall. It doesn't matter.<br />
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What matters is that you get exposure. And you know what? You'll fail, you'll lose confidence, get embarrassed, think that it was the worst thing ever. . .<br />
But you know what? The next time you try, it will be better. It will get better and you'll feel easier talking to girls. <br />
Comment on what you notice about them, maybe you're curious about her hat, the bored look in her eyes, the book she's reading etc. etc. What is interesting about them? Ask questions. <br />
Then when you get into a conversation, try flirting, and later on, ask for their contact or ask them out on a date.<br />
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Here's a good line to start with: "Sorry, have I met you before?"<br />
*forces them to think about if they've seen you before, puts you into their mind* if no "Really? Because you look kinda familiar, ah, I'm *Insert Name Here*" - I was always taught to use a handshake, more personal.<br />
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-->Do one thing, however small, outside your comfort zone everyday. Get advice from your friends, relationships are something that everyone can empathize with. We've all been there :) But don't be complaining, be accepting. <br />
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--->Be a Gentleman!!!!

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By the way Yachtdiver is right, he's got specific advice (the dude is married so he knows what he's talking about)

-->My advice was stuff I did to get outside my comfort zone. But remember to ask them out before you're established as "just a friend." Make your intentions clear. But be a gentleman- no swearing, no whining.

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Time for some harsh talk.<br />
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If you are obviously desperate, you will NEVER get it.<br />
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Read that line again. <br />
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If you want to change, here is what you do. Get cleaned up, shave, get a haircut. Make sure you dress a little better than you have too. I'm not saying to wear a suit all the time, wear what everyone else does, just a little better. No ripped or stained t shirts, for example.<br />
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Start exercising. Go running and do some pushups. You don't need to be ripped, but very fit.<br />
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Next, get yourself out there. Go where the girls are. It might be clubs. It might be some school classes. It might be a local park. Volunteer or join some clubs. You have to meet people. By the way, changing groups helps because you need to expand your circles so you can meet a woman.<br />
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Here is the most important thing - Talk to girls. Ask them out. Sure several will turn you down, so what? Some will go out with you. Get some experience dating under your belt and you will get what you are looking for.<br />
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Good luck

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