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I'm 25. How do I deal with my sister (31) making comments about how I'm not smart or can't get a job?

I'm in law school about to finish and take the bar and she keeps making these little comments about how she doubts my abilities. It's obvious that this something and what I really need is support so I just don't know how to deal with it. We have a good relationship (usually if I just keep my mouth shut) so I don'twant to cause unnecessary drama... What the hell would Buddha do?

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    CherokeePatti - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by CherokeePatti Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:55PM

    She's jealous

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16 Answers to "I'm 25. How do I deal with my sister (31) making comments about how I'm not smart or can't get a job?"

  1. Pallavi - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by Pallavi Feb 12th, 2013 at 1:42PM

    Well sounds like your sister is began rude and disrespectful maybe she see's that your life is going in the right way that you want it to go. She looks at you as a treat if your on top and she's at the bottom she may be scared since your younger than her most family have the older one began on the up and up. Just tell her to deal with her issues not yours. Many siblings will put down one another so they can ride the high horse and get that self respect that they are craving. Do not mind her she is putting you down because she feels that her life is not in a good path. You have set your future for your self. Do not let anyone even family disrespect you or you life.

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  2. atticlyn06 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by atticlyn06 Jan 13th, 2013 at 7:47AM

    Just smile... And say "I love you sister". :)

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  3. MrsMomma - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by MrsMomma Jan 13th, 2013 at 12:00AM

    Sounds like she's jealous. Just tell her if she's got enough time on her hands to chastise you, maybe she needs to reexamine her own affairs.

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  4. trotsky52 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by trotsky52 Jan 13th, 2013 at 4:23AM

    Your family are supposed to support you not undermine your confidence .

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  5. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Jenni855 Jan 13th, 2013 at 4:19AM

    Tell her to butt out of your life. Sounds jealous to me.People often make comments like this when they are insecure about their own lives also.

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  6. xena2 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by xena2 Jan 13th, 2013 at 12:08AM

    she cant be that smart if she doesnt know your in school and working on your law degree
    when u graduate u will get to article for practically nothing and that wont make her happy either
    then after u pass the bar it will take appoximately five years to get your career established and she wont be happy bout that either
    so all in all she has a lot of misery ahead of her so be happy with that

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  7. GTR1400 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by GTR1400 Jan 13th, 2013 at 12:06AM

    Ignore her - I know that's hard. What you are doing is preparing yourself for a career, and that takes time and work. Eventually the remuneration will eclipse those, like her, would rather have you work as a walmart greeter for the rest of your life.

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  8. RandomUniverse - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by RandomUniverse Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:59PM

    I believe the Buddah would respond,"Is that so?" And move forward unaffected.
    I, being less evolved, would probably rip her a new *******.

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  9. LoneAlpha - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by LoneAlpha Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:57PM

    Get a job

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  10. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Vessa Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:56PM

    Seems you have three choices.
    Tell her to stop doing it. She might not like hearing you stand up for yourself.
    Avoid her.
    Keep swallowing it.

    I'd go for option #1, though I'd try to do it diplomatically.

    As a lawyer, you will be dealing with human psychology fairly often. Dealing with your sister will be good practice.

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  11. 1down5up - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by 1down5up Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:56PM

    Is she jealous you're going to be successful? Does she just stay at home and watch her kid or she single and not doing anything for herself? What does she do that more important?

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  12. Steven46 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Steven46 Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:56PM

    Sue her for defamation of character.

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  13. ivorythorns - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by ivorythorns Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:56PM

    Tell her to shove off, the economy sucks right now and getting a job is murder it's not your fault. Ignore her or tell her that you really don't appreciate her comments, as for Budda...I have no clue

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  14. MidgardFalls - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by MidgardFalls Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:55PM

    dont know about buddah.. but me Id pick her life apart and lay it out to see we are all flawed.. and to do law.. you arent stupid.. grats on getting so far :) and good luck

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  15. InFiDeL0020 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by InFiDeL0020 Jan 12th, 2013 at 11:55PM

    Ignore her comment and do the best you can.

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